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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- Dr. Romance on: Why does my partner insist on being right? - by Submitted on Apr 17, 2021 from Tina TessinaWhen your partner refuses to help solve the problem, you have no choice but to focus on your own need until you get cooperation. As long as you offer every opportunity to cooperate and you extend an invitation to your partner to join you whenever he or she wishes, you are free to focus your ...
Views: 610(1 vote) - Dr. Romance on: Without Ego - by Submitted on Jan 05, 2018 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: When reading philosophical teachings and writings, I often wonder why the body and the ego are seen so negatively, as if they somehow are antithetical to spirituality. Although ego, body and mind are not all we are, each is part, an ...
Views: 1254(1 vote) - Dr. Romance says: "Lighten Up - Cures for Marital Boredom" - by Submitted on Jun 25, 2019 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: The old folk songs say it: Oh, love is handsome, love is fineLove is a jewel when it is new; But when love's old, it waxes coldAnd fades away, like morning dew. Folk wisdom says it: If newlyweds put a penny in a jar for every time they make love in the first year, and ...
Views: 829(1 vote) - Dr. Romance Video: 5 Tips to Move on Emotionally after Divorce - by Submitted on Aug 20, 2012 from Tina Tessina(To view the video, go here: http://youtu.be/98RZAsK9c6c) Going through a divorce is devastating. You not only lose the marriage and break up your family; you also lose all the hopes and dreams you had for happiness here. Dr. Romance helps you to pick yourself up from the rubble and move on ...
Views: 3351(1 vote) - Dr. Romance Video: Dating after Widowhood - by Submitted on Apr 08, 2013 from Tina TessinaTo view the video, click here. Dr. Romance's 3 Tips for Finding New Love For a while after a relationship ends, you may not feel like considering a new relationship, which is probably good. Jumping right from one relationship to another usually doesn't work. A relationship that ...
Views: 1634(1 vote) - Dr. Romance Video: How to be Civil to an Ex-Husband - by Submitted on Apr 16, 2012 from Tina Tessina[View the video here: http://youtu.be/1DM_RHzOBEk] The divorce was ugly, he was a jerk, but you still need to have contact with him because of your kids or finances. You hate to have to deal with him, but you have to. What can you do to make it better for yourself and your kids? Tina B. ...
Views: 1915(1 vote) - Dr. Romance Video: Infidelity -- Stay or Go? - by Submitted on Jul 23, 2012 from Tina TessinaIf video doesn't load, click here. Discovering your partner has been unfaithful is a shock. Your first instinct may be to run, but if you have a shared history, children and finances, you may wonder – should you stay or go? Dr. Romance shows you how to decide. When you get ...
Views: 2506(1 vote) - Dr. Romance's Guidelines for A Great First Date - by Submitted on Aug 20, 2018 from Tina TessinaGoing on the first few dates with a new person can be nerve-wracking. These Dr. Romance guidelines can help you be safe, find out the important things you need to know, and have fun. *Safety First – Before you go on this date, make sure you have thought about who will be in ...
Views: 932(1 vote) - Dr. Romance: "Don't Call Your Ex!" - by Submitted on Nov 28, 2018 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance "Don't Call Your Ex" Dr. Romance’s How to handle being dumped DO put it in perspective If you're dumped, it hurts, but count your lucky stars. You don’t have a relationship if the other person's not really interested. DO understand that there were problems already ...
Views: 1923(1 vote) - Dr. Romance: "How to Deal with a Partner's Annoying Quirks" - by Submitted on Aug 20, 2019 from Tina TessinaMany guys, especially younger ones, are well known for having 'courting behavior' and then relaxing into their old, slobby selves once you're committed. It's not that men are from Mars, women from Venus - it's more like all of us have grown up on different planets. Couples can get caught up in ...
Views: 851(1 vote) - Dr. Romance: 16 things to consider before moving in together or making financial commitments: - by Submitted on Jul 22, 2020 from Tina TessinaMoving in together is a financial commitment, and so is marriage, so it’s important to consider the tough issues you’ll face as a cohabiting or married couple. Dr. Romance's Financial Questions to Ask Before Marriage or Moving in Together The family you grew up in shapes an ...
Views: 855(1 vote) - Dr. Romance: 3 Ways to Ruin Your Relationship - by Submitted on Apr 09, 2020 from Tina TessinaEspecially during trying times like isolation, relationships can be devastated by simple, thoughtless things. Bad behavior will ruin your marriage faster than any temptation from the outside. Dr. Romance points out the worst mistakes to make in a marriage. Dr. Romance's 3 ways to ...
Views: 769(1 vote) - Dr. Romance: Dating after Widowhood - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2020 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance's 3 Tips for Finding New Love For a while after a relationship ends, you may not feel like considering a new relationship, which is probably good. Jumping right from one relationship to another usually doesn't work. A relationship that follows too quickly is called a ...
Views: 735(1 vote) - Dr. Romance: Got a Tough Ex? - by Submitted on Jan 06, 2014 from Tina TessinaRelationships: Three Tips to Dealing with a Really Difficult Ex-Spouse Dr. Romance’s three tips to dealing with a difficult ex. 1. Choose your battles. One of my clients once said “I don’t want to die on that hill.” She meant: that battle isn’t worth what it will cost me – I’ll ignore ...
Views: 1862(1 vote) - Dr. Romance: How to Create a Good Roommate Situation - by Submitted on Aug 11, 2020 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance: More and more people are sharing quarters since the pandemic. Being social distanced all alone is difficult, and financial problems are making roommates seem more desirable. Here's how to set up a situation you'll be glad about. The best way to have a good ...
Views: 715(1 vote) - Dr. Romance: Is there a right way to ask for more sex? - by Submitted on Feb 08, 2021 from Tina TessinaIf you and your partner are not on the same page sexually, you need to learn how to talk with each other about sex: Dr. Romance's Guidelines for Creating a Sexual Agreement: * Set up a problem-solving session: * Having a time to talk about sex will help you create trust and sexual ...
Views: 863(1 vote) - Dr. Romance: Make your love life sparkle! - by Submitted on Nov 20, 2018 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance's Top 5 ways to take your marriage from good to great. 1. Talk frequently and honestly to each other about your frustrations, about sex, about anger, about disappointment, about your appreciation of each other, about the meaning of life, about everything. No topic should be ...
Views: 1009(1 vote) - Dr. Romance: Reluctant to Marry Again - by Submitted on Sep 29, 2020 from Tina TessinaWhen a relationship that probably began in hope and joy has ended in failure, grief and pain, It's very understandable to be concerned about repeating an action that was so hurtful. Here are some Happiness Tips for recovering from divorce. Dr. Romance’s 3 tips for letting go of the ...
Views: 709(1 vote) - Dr. Romance: Spouse's Child - by Submitted on Jun 12, 2016 from Tina TessinaIt’s not the first thing everyone thinks of, but the existence of an out-of-wedlock child will have a big economic impact, and the financial responsibility will grow with the child. 1. Unless you can settle with the child’s other parent out of court, court costs can be very expensive. ...
Views: 1380(1 vote) - Dr. Romance: When Love is Kind: Mutuality in Relationships - by Submitted on Jan 16, 2012 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: Many people ask me, “How will I know if I'm in love?” Answer: Anyone who's in love usually knows it; the real question should be are we mutually in love, or am I wasting my time? If you want to be secure in your primary relationship, knowing how to create mutuality and ...
Views: 1917(1 vote) - Dr. Romance: When Love is Kind: Mutuality in Relationships - by Submitted on Apr 02, 2019 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: Many people ask me, “How will I know if I'm in love?” Answer: Anyone who's in love usually knows it; the real question should be are we mutually in love, or am I wasting my time? If you want to be secure in your primary relationship, knowing how to create mutuality and work ...
Views: 1043(1 vote) - Dr. Romance’s guide to dating safely: - by Submitted on Aug 21, 2018 from Tina TessinaI have encountered so many people who have been disappointed, ripped off or worse when dating online, that I drew up some guidelines for keeping yourself safe. Dr. Romance’s guide to dating safely: Be skeptical, not gullible. When you're meeting dates online (it is not dating until it's ...
Views: 1102(1 vote) - Dynamic Marriage - The Perfect Valentines Day Gift - by Submitted on Feb 11, 2011 from Tom KingAre you at a loss about what to give your wife for Valentines Day? What can you give your man that will make a big impact on him? The answers lie in understanding what your spouse really wants and needs from you. Let me give you some ideas. We all have common human needs but our priorities ...
Views: 1263(1 vote) - Easy to Follow Instructions for Condom Use - by Submitted on May 08, 2013 from Amy ShepherdIf you are looking for a simple guide about how to put on a condom then follow the 15 simple steps below: 1.Erection It seems like an obvious thing but you need to have an erect penis before you attempt to put on the condom. Roll the condom down the erect penis before any anal, oral or ...
Views: 1959(1 vote) - Eat Your Heart Out - by Submitted on Mar 01, 2011 from Martha Tara LeeAccording to a new research study in the UK (http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1341660/Six-10-women-dont-like-eating-partners.html?ITO=1490), more than 60 percent of British women in relationships do not feel comfortable eating in front of their partner, and almost half get shy when ...
Views: 1146(1 vote) - Effortless Ways to Get Your Ex Back - by Submitted on Jun 08, 2011 from Patrick MorrisBreakup really sucks, does it not? However, there are good things that might come out of every breakup. For instance, you can have the precious time with yourself that you hardly have while in a relationship. But if you are really into a person and you want to get your ex back, you will need to ...
Views: 705(1 vote) - Eight Apparent Signs that you are in a Toxic Relationship - by Submitted on Sep 26, 2020 from Kalyna KapurIt is a matter of fact that when you are in a healthy relationship, you bloom and grow in your own way. A healthy relationship is built with love, trust, and compromise. Everything seems to work out when you are in a healthy relationship. You share every detail, cover your partner’s weak points, ...
Views: 534(1 vote) - Embracing Grief - by Submitted on May 06, 2012 from Anne BaigentEmbracing grief and seeing it as part of life’s’ normal cycle of events, when dealing with life changes will assist in seeing a clearer path moving forward and dealing with the events leading you to this place in time. Remember grief is not just the result of death, but any major life changing ...
Views: 2156(1 vote) - Emotional Expression: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Hide How They Feel? - by Submitted on Jun 08, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is not in a good place emotionally, they could end up talking to a friend about how they feel. Now, this doesn’t necessarily mean that they will want this person to do anything; simply sharing what is going on for them could be enough. Opening up about what is going on for them ...
Views: 809(1 vote) - Ending Relationships Gracefully - by Submitted on Jan 11, 2005 from Margaret PaulIn my counseling practice, I often hear the question, “How do I end a relationship without hurting someone’s feelings?” Whether it’s a romantic relationship or a friendship, ending it gracefully is generally a challenge. The problem arises because so many people see it ...
Views: 2450(1 vote) - Energy Bank Account: Are You Overdrawn? - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2011 from Elaine CorreiaI have a wonderful feedback system that really gets my attention. In fact it is so effective that when I overdraw my energetic bank account, it won't allow me to function very well and go further into energetic debt! It seems that banking practices apply to both your money and finances and ...
Views: 1410(1 vote) - Even the best relationships come to an end! - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from Dr. D. Ivan YoungChances are, that relationship you’re ending has been knocking at death’s door for quite some time now or should never have begun to start with. The handwriting has been on the wall but you didn’t have the courage to say that it’s over. Bad advice from your peers, relatives and ...
Views: 3141(2 votes) - Events & Stories - by Submitted on Nov 30, 2010 from Steve DahlWe have often heard they hurt my feelings or if that happened I would finally be happy. What someone did or what happened is just an event, it is our story about it our beliefs about it that create our feelings. Some clarity on the difference between events and stories. Events just are what ...
Views: 1570(1 vote) - Expect The Holiday Season – Ways To Get Your Girlfriend In Time For Christmas - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2011 from Michael LoisThe loneliest season to breakup together with your girl is about Christmas. All over the place you appear you are encircled by happy couples roller skating, kissing underneath the mistletoe, and hugging together for warmth. The greater you’re faced with one of these happy couples the greater ...
Views: 673(1 vote) - Expectations in Relationships - by Submitted on Feb 08, 2011 from Zile HinaVery often, the expectations we have of others stem from our own consciousness, our own psyche, and have little or nothing to do with the other person. When we take our own ideals, standards, and values and use them as benchmarks of whether someone is good enough for us or good enough to us, ...
Views: 1337(2 votes) - Express your romantic emotions on valentine's Day with poetry - by Submitted on Jan 06, 2019 from Merlyn SeeleyEveryone has a romantic side; they just have to learn to use it. We have all experienced love of someone and quite a bit of us have experienced true love that is unmatched. Some may say that it is harder for a man to express his emotions but there are some guys that have a good way of doing it. ...
Views: 2652(1 vote) - Facebook Affairs - by Submitted on Sep 20, 2011 from Joe BeamYesterday I talked with another wife emotionally involved with an old boyfriend she bumped into online on Facebook. No surprise there. Every month couples enroll in our workshop for marriages in crisis because one of them – usually the wife – had an affair with someone found on one of the social ...
Views: 5466(4 votes) - Facebook cheating – Can Your Spouse’s Facebook Socializing Destroy Your Relationship? - by Submitted on Jan 04, 2012 from Lisa Penn-JamesA recent survey in the United Kingdom found that married couples headed for divorce are increasingly citing Facebook in their petitions. The survey revealed that a staggering 33 percent of divorce petitions contained the word Facebook, as opposed to only 20 percent in 2009. The most common ...
Views: 2062(1 vote) - Facial Speak - by Submitted on Feb 25, 2013 from William FetterFacial Speak I've been watching the Jodie Arias Death Penalty trial for the past three weeks. For those of you who aren't familiar with this case, here is a little information about her. Jodi Arias, 32, is accused of first degree murder in the death of her former boyfriend, Travis ...
Views: 1491(1 vote) - Fair Fighting Rules for Separation and Divorce - by Submitted on Jan 16, 2012 from TR CarderEmotions can run riot during separation or divorce. High value topics such as child custody, property division, child support and security get shuffled with advice and criticism from all corners, to create a mental tangle that can shake up even the coolest customer. Add a couple of divorce ...
Views: 1720(2 votes) - Fall 2017’s Saturn in Sagittarius Swansong: “LOVE IS ALWAYS MORE PRECIOUS THAN MONEY” - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2017 from joan pancoe“The impermanence of this present life will force you to leave all wealth behind, but by giving it away, you can take it with you as good karma.” The Dalai Lama To view with images and all links activiated: http://joanpancoe.com/page-newsletter-details.php?nl=119 Dear ONE, ...
Views: 1560(1 vote) - Family Violence Q&A - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2012 from Tina TessinaQ: My spouse and I often have arguments over the “small stuff.” How do we get past this so that we are not constantly bickering? A: I’ll bet neither of you would argue with your boss or work colleagues, or your children’s teachers the way you argue with ...
Views: 1888(1 vote) - Father of the Bride Speech - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2011 from alim mollaThe father of the bride speech is very important just because you in fact are the father of the bride. This is not some speech you want to put together in a heartbeat and just blurt out in a minute. Don’t get me wrong, it could very well be one minute long, but you want to think through the ...
Views: 674(1 vote) - Fight Technology Overload With These 6 Tips - by Submitted on Dec 23, 2013 from Michael RosenbaumYou love your smartphone – right? How many good things has it done for you today? From connecting with friends to getting restaurant reviews, our phones are invaluable. However, there’s also a downside to our phones. As we focus on our phone, we often neglect dealing with things in the ...
Views: 1428(1 vote) - Financial Boundaries Within the Marriage - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2011 from Chris Hartwell, MSWBoundaries within the marriage are very important to the relationship. Determining what should be kept private between the couple versus what is told to the outside world makes a big impact. Finances are an issue that some people prefer to remain very private about, while other people don’t mind ...
Views: 1907(1 vote) - Finding a unicorn woman for couples on the Internet - by Submitted on Jul 30, 2018 from Koki DarcyUnicorn is the polyamorous or bisexual woman who is especially willing to be a romantic or sexually involved equally with the couple. This unicorn woman is not allowing with any other partners. In addition, it acts as a couple of curious open relationships with like local unicorns woman for ...
Views: 2252(1 vote) - Finding a Work-Life Balance During the Holidays - by Submitted on Dec 23, 2011 from Diane CraigHappy holidays! It’s time for most businesses to close down in observance of Christmas and the New Year. But when we’re constantly caught up in the fast pace of the office, it can be hard to stop working entirely and to enjoy the time off. A few extra days without constant meetings and incoming ...
Views: 1146(1 vote) - Finding the right BDSM partner - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2017 from Shawn YanFinding fellow kinky people in the wild can be hard enough as it is, let alone finding a partner within the BDSM community that can meet your needs. Here are some tips to make searching for that person easier. Knowing What You Want: Understanding your desires sounds obvious, but it is ...
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