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- Dear Dr. Romance: My girlfriend doesn't think she can handle this relationship. - by Submitted on Feb 23, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am (or was, perhaps) in a fairly strong relationship for a few months now. Recently though, as the upcoming fall quarter approaches, my girlfriend doesn’t think she can handle a relationship. Between stress from school (she really wants her 4.0 this year), over-bearing ...
Views: 1770 - Dr. Romance on: It's a Dirty Job: Use the Silly Solution for a Healthy Relationship - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2015 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: Early in our marriage, after a difficult struggle between us, I gave my husband Richard a card. All over the front it said, "I love you," and inside it said, "It's a dirty job, but someone has to do it." That phrase has carried us through many ...
Views: 1243 - When Love is Kind: Mutuality in Relationships - by Submitted on Feb 14, 2015 from Tina TessinaMany people ask me, “How will I know if I'm in love?” Answer: Anyone who's in love usually knows it; the real question should be are we mutually in love, or am I wasting my time? If you want to be secure in your primary relationship, knowing how to create mutuality and work together ...
Views: 2382 - How To Listen To (And Live) Your Truth - by Submitted on Feb 03, 2015 from Kate SinerKnowing what you want is only part of the process in living the life that you dream of. The transformation really begins when you can start to translate what you want into radical honesty in each moment - honesty with yourself and with everyone in your life. Once we have connected to our ...
Views: 979 - Lying Vs Telling The Truth In Relationships - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2015 from Brian KrallNow I know what your probably thinking…what an obvious answer to this question it is that “Honesty is the best policy”…Right? But if the answer was that obvious why would I write a whole blog on it? Obviously this is still a necessary topic, as so many people in relationships still lie to ...
Views: 4235(1 vote) - Ten Guidelines for Establishing Healthy Trust - by Submitted on Jan 11, 2015 from Telka Arend-RitterTen Guidelines for Establishing Healthy Trust “How do I know if someone is trustworthy?” “How can I become trustworthy?” “How can I ever trust again?” Healthy trust is hard work. Betrayal, neglect, abuse, addiction and abandonment damage healthy trust but it’s never too late to learn how ...
Views: 4169(2 votes) - Who's Your BFF? - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2014 from Michael MantellHere’s a wonderful poem on friendship I came across, written by David Leonhardt. Choose friends wisely, the portrait they paint Is who you are and who you ain't. Friendship is life's great support When friends are of the right sort. For all your dreams do they make room, Or bring you ...
Views: 1004 - Consciously Preparing For Death - by Submitted on Nov 24, 2014 from Marc LernerMany of us have lived a life where we have become proficient in accomplishing goals; we live our lives in that state of mind. When we are close to the end of life, what is our goal? In our lives, we have been "the Doer," where we do things by focusing on our thoughts. Preparing for death ...
Views: 1347 - Trusting Your Real Self - by Submitted on Nov 24, 2014 from Marc LernerWhen we think of trust, we think of people, places and things. That kind of trust, even though you experience it within, is directed outside of you. When we face a challenge, we need to learn how to trust ourselves. When we trust ourselves, we are open to receive powerful inner resources. When ...
Views: 1199 - Angels All Around Us - by Submitted on Nov 12, 2014 from Sheryl PaulThere is so much pain in this world. There’s personal pain that often takes the form of anxiety, depression, addictions, and intrusive thoughts. There’s the physical pain of illness, injury, and disabilities, both short-term and chronic. There’s relationship pain when we endure conflict with ...
Views: 1208 - Relationships: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Believe That People Can't Be Trusted? - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIt is important for human beings to work together, and this is because they’re interdependent; they need each other. So when they’re able to put their differences to one side and to find a common ground, their own lives are going to be a lot easier. This doesn’t mean that everyone needs to ...
Views: 1464 - Relationships: Does Our Childhood Define Our Expectations Of The Opposite Sex? - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that people shouldn’t have expectations and this is partly because it will cause them to be disappointed or let down. And while this can’t be denied, having expectations is part of life in many ways. For example: when someone expects more from life, they are likely to ...
Views: 1678 - Dear Dr. Romance: He isn't shy about holding hands with a black girl - by Submitted on May 26, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I started dating a man 2 years younger than me, who is from another country. I thought he was very sweet and gentlemanly and of course I'm really attracted to him, and he eventually asked me on a date. We've had several dates, and he's very considerate, very ...
Views: 1510 - Turn on Your Charm - by Submitted on May 16, 2014 from Tina TessinaEver wondered how con artists can get away with all they do? They know how to charm people, and they have mastered the art of looking as if they belong. Because they have no feelings of guilt about misrepresenting themselves, they can pull it off. But you don’t have to be dishonest and ...
Views: 1502 - Domestic Abuse - by Submitted on May 08, 2014 from Dr. Anne Brown"Never make yourself feel like nothing, to make someone else feel like everything!" Rationalizing has to be prevalent when there is Domestic Abuse because how else could you convince yourself to stay. First you have to recognize that you are being emotionally, physically and or sexually ...
Views: 1144(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I got very drunk and kissed another man - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm nearly 30 and have been living with my boyfriend for several years. Last year we encountered a rough patch and I felt neglected and unloved and like all respect had gone from our relationship. Unfortunately during this time I got very drunk and kissed another man. I ...
Views: 3282 - Dear Dr. Romance: It would be embarrassing if they found out it was a wig - by Submitted on Apr 03, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: This question is a little hard for me because it is very personal. My husband and I were married for 24 years before he passed away. During our time together, I developed a severe case of alopecia which has left me with very little hair. This did not bother my ...
Views: 1433 - Do You Support Each Other? - by Submitted on Mar 28, 2014 from Emma ViglucciWe all have dreams, wishes and goals. There are things we want for ourselves, our partner, our family. Sometimes though we find that it is difficult, if not impossible, to make our wish a reality. We may want to start a new business, go back to school, learn a new trade, pick up a new hobby ...
Views: 1654 - Dear Dr. Romance: I discovered he crossdressed - by Submitted on Mar 10, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance:When I was 20, I met a man of 37. For many reasons, including what I thought was love, moved in with him 3 weeks later. After getting engaged to my partner, I discovered he crossdressed. I cried, but he said he did it cuz he was alone for so long before he met me. Flash forward ...
Views: 1631(1 vote) - 25 Sure Ways to Improve Communication - by Submitted on Mar 27, 2014 from William Cottringer25 Sure Ways to Improve Communication By Bill Cottringer “The greatest problem with communication is the illusion it has taken place.” ~George Bernard Shaw. Communication is the main currency in the today’s Information Age, but sadly, miscommunication is our number one failing ...
Views: 1662 - Dear Dr. Romance: She started pushing me away and becoming distant - by Submitted on Feb 27, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I've been dating my girlfriend for 5 almost 6 months now. We hit it off from the very beginning and fell in love a couple months into the relationship. Both of us are independent people and level headed, but there's a deep connection between the two ...
Views: 7437 - Relationships: Is Feeling Safe An Important Part Of Forming An Emotional Connection? - by Submitted on Sep 28, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIf human beings were inherently independent, it wouldn’t matter if someone didn't have relationships with other people; as they would be able to just carry on with their life. But as human beings and everything else on this planet is interdependent, it means that relationships play a vital part ...
Views: 1831 - How To Build Trust As A Leader - by Submitted on Jan 30, 2014 from Tracey FieberWithout a doubt, one of the most powerful ways for someone in a position of authority to become a true leader is through the trust of their team. Obtaining the trust of your employees can mean the difference between a smooth flow of work, and having people doubt your capabilities and intentions. ...
Views: 1596 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Find It Hard To Trust Others? - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperAs human beings are inherently interdependent and therefore reliant on others, relationships play a vital role in not only ones survival on this planet, but also in their ability to thrive. And this means that how one perceives others will play a big part in how they experience life. Of ...
Views: 1634 - Dr. Romance: Got a Tough Ex? - by Submitted on Jan 06, 2014 from Tina TessinaRelationships: Three Tips to Dealing with a Really Difficult Ex-Spouse Dr. Romance’s three tips to dealing with a difficult ex. 1. Choose your battles. One of my clients once said “I don’t want to die on that hill.” She meant: that battle isn’t worth what it will cost me – I’ll ignore ...
Views: 1651(1 vote) - Relationships: Can Our Past Relationships Affect Our Present Relationship? - by Submitted on Jan 06, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperOne can enter a new relationship with the idea that it will be a completely new experience and unlike what they have gone through in the past. But while this might be their outlook in the beginning, this can soon come to an end as the relationship progresses. This could be because of what is ...
Views: 3847 - 4 Tips for a Cheater: Get Your Marriage Back on Track - by Submitted on Dec 15, 2013 from Tina TessinaTo recover from infidelity and save your marriage: 1. Tell the Truth. Assuming your spouse found out, you didn't confess—this is the time to tell the whole truth. It's probably best done with a therapist present, to keep a lid on the emotional reactions. 2. Give your Spouse the ...
Views: 1535(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: How do I handle jealousy? - by Submitted on Dec 12, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Just read a fine article of your from a link off the internet, and was wondering your best recommendation of the books you've wrote for jealousy and suspicious minds in a marriage with no real proof? Dear Reader: "Handling the Green-Eyed ...
Views: 1468(2 votes) - Dr. Romance on Friends in Need: Interventions for Domestic Violence - by Submitted on Sep 23, 2013 from Tina TessinaLast month, Dr. Romance received the following letter from a reader: “A topic I would like you to cover/explore is that curious phenomenon which permits otherwise independent women to be dominated...even abused...by males with whom they share some sort or relationship. Why is it that a ...
Views: 1414(1 vote) - The Nature of the Soul - by Submitted on Sep 19, 2013 from Hope BradfordThere are many experiences of the truth of who you are: "The Authentic Self is the part of you that lives before and after this lifetime, that is eternal…When you leave [your experience here on earth] you have a lot more power. It won’t be ego-based power. Rather it will be beyond ego, ...
Views: 1310(2 votes) - Regain Peace of Mind: Trash Those Unwanted Thoughts! - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2013 from Noelle NelsonYou made up. The argument is long over; life with your sweetheart is back to normal. Except for that little nagging thought that keeps running through your brain, with the determined persistence of a hamster on a treadmill: “How could he/she do that? How could he/she say that about me in front ...
Views: 1364 - Remain True to Yourself - by Submitted on Aug 21, 2013 from Stacy CorriganNot being authentic is a big problem in dating if you’re attempting to be someone you’re not when looking for the love of your life. Many women are taught in childhood to be pleasers and to cater to their man’s wishes, and often that means we act as the person we think our man would want to be ...
Views: 1006 - Dear Dr. Romance: Should he rent a room in his ex's house? - by Submitted on Aug 19, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance, Should a man expect a woman to want to become involved with him when he is still best friends with is ex-lover--and he is a renter in her house? He claims it is all over between them, but I don't see how he or the ex-lover should expect a woman to feel comfortable ...
Views: 1468(2 votes) - Could He/She Be A Control Freak? - by Submitted on Aug 10, 2013 from Tina Tessina3 ways to Stay Sane and Stay Married Is your spouse a control freak? It is driving you to distraction? Here are three tips to keep your relationship on track, keep you sane and stop you from going to divorce court. 1. Control freaks can be very successful. If yours is, give credit where ...
Views: 1783(5 votes) - How to Get Over the Feeling of Abandonment - by Submitted on Jul 27, 2013 from Amr AbbasThe most aggravating feeling in the world is the feeling of abandonment. You can talk all you want yet you will never get your point across and it will be hurtful for your pride to speak whenever you are feeling abandoned. You feel as if the world has ended and no matter who comes to help you, ...
Views: 1218 - Dear Dr. Romance: I'm struggling with dismissing bad behavior - by Submitted on Jul 22, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: You state in the Yahoo article "Signs You Must Move On": "Women often have a very hard time ending relationships, even if deep down they know they're unhealthy. They fear change, they fear being single or they think they won't ...
Views: 1623(1 vote) - Am I Having an Emotional Affair? This Quiz Will Reveal the Truth - by Submitted on Jul 18, 2013 from Jacob ElichmannAre you unsure whether or not you have strayed into the realms of emotional infidelity? Are you worried that perhaps someone other than your spouse has become your top priority? Or maybe you're here reading this because your husband or wife wants you to see for yourself that your ...
Views: 4475(1 vote) - 3 Ways to Improve the Quality of Your Intimate Relationship - by Submitted on Jun 27, 2013 from Michelle SearsYes it's about quality not quantity. You can spend every waking hour with your partner and have a terrible relationship. And if that's the case then who the heck would want to spend all day with them anyway? Right? So it's definitely quality over quantity. And it doesn't matter if you've ...
Views: 1289 - Boundaries: The unsung heroes of Awesome Relationships - by Submitted on Jun 17, 2013 from Marcus Ambrester"Boundaries" from Chaprter 7 of Pillars of Awesome Relationships. “I only have to be willing to get up one more time than him,” Deena said about disciplining her son and constantly enforcing boundaries with him. Her son tested limits and pushed boundaries with her all day, every day. She ...
Views: 1384 - Boundaries: The unsung heroes of Awesome Relationships - by Submitted on Jun 17, 2013 from Marcus Ambrester"Boundaries" from Chaprter 7 of Pillars of Awesome Relationships. “I only have to be willing to get up one more time than him,” Deena said about disciplining her son and constantly enforcing boundaries with him. Her son tested limits and pushed boundaries with her all day, every day. She ...
Views: 1448 - Learn How the People Around You See More - by Submitted on Jun 02, 2013 from Amr AbbasThere are plenty of things about us that we do not understand; things that we do not notice or see even when they are available right in front of us. Sometimes those things are abilities that we have long forgotten about and sometimes they are skills that we have earned through time. We might ...
Views: 1058 - A Fisherman's Beliefs Killed Him - Beliefs Are Real - by Submitted on Jun 30, 2013 from Kael RanschaertAfter a long day of fishing the bright sea, an Indian fisherman heads home to port. The sea with its endless potential treated him very well today and he was sure to gain huge reward after selling his catch. The fishing market had been bustling as of recent and the demand for the fisherman’s ...
Views: 1400(1 vote) - Relating With Love - by Submitted on May 12, 2013 from Tina TessinaWhy do relationship counselors, speakers and authors say repeatedly that your relationship depends on how well you communicate with each other? Because marriage is a partnership and to create teamwork, you need to keep each other informed, and keep yourself aware of your partner’s ideas, wants ...
Views: 1333(2 votes) - The Truth About Lying - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2013 from Lisa HaishaWhen you were growing up, you probably learned that lying was wrong. Remember the old adage, "Honesty is the best policy"? However, chances are that those same people who told you not to lie often told a few non-truths themselves. And today, the mantra of "do not lie" may be one you repeat ...
Views: 1221 - How Divorce Disputes Can Be Resolved Through Mediation - by Submitted on Apr 17, 2013 from Diane CaudillAll marriages should be all about the fairy tale, but this is not always the case. Obviously, reality is hardly ever that way. Money and raising kids are often tense issues a lot of couples fight over which can be rather challenging. Issues that couples fight over are common everyday issues. ...
Views: 860 - Dear Dr. Romance: To this day I am not sure why he became so angry - by Submitted on Apr 15, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr Romance: I hope you will be able to provide me with an insight.I was in a relationship with a man I genuinely loved and wanted future with. Our relationship was lovely to start with but after a few months problems started to emerge: another woman told me he was in a ...
Views: 1658(1 vote) - How to Embody a State of Unconditional Self Love - by Submitted on Apr 11, 2013 from Gustavo CastanerWho would you be and how different your life would be if you could embody a state of absolute self-love? That means loving ALL about yourself: the past, the present, your shadow self, your thoughts (including those you are grateful no one knows about), your mistakes and your emotions. There ...
Views: 2701 - Jealousy, Faithfulness, and Distance - by Submitted on Apr 04, 2013 from Tina TessinaSo many couples are now separated part- or full-time because of military deployment and/or work travel and schedules, I get a lot of questions about faithfulness. Your marriage vows may have said, “'til death do us part” but no one said anything about what happens when a military career or ...
Views: 1493(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: How Can I get over the nervousness of dating again? - by Submitted on Apr 01, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: How can one get over the nervousness of dating again when its been quite a few years since their last date? Dear Reader: If your last relationship lasted for a while, dating again can be a scary proposition. These guidelines can help: Dr. Romance's ...
Views: 1524 - Dear Dr. Romance: I can't get my ex out of my head and heart - by Submitted on Mar 28, 2013 from Tina Tessinap>Dear Dr. Romance: Several years ago I met this man. it was instant attraction for both of us. we fell instantly for each other but he had a girlfriend. I gave him the space he needed and we both agreed to just be friends. we tried it once when they broke up but it was difficult. ...
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