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- ABANDONMENT Pain, Now (Part 1) - by Submitted on Feb 23, 2011 from Donna Torbico“I HATE YOU - DON’T LEAVE ME!” I know I don’t deserve you, but I’m desperate ✶ Un-healed ACoAs have only 2 speeds about most things: Too Much or Too Little, black or white, very high or very low. ‘Gray’ is NOT even thought of, or is seen as a cop-out! ✶ Mental Health is about many ...
Views: 1695 - The Law Of Attraction Gone Wrong - by Submitted on Apr 13, 2013 from Tracia LarimerI've noticed that many people are talking about working with the "Law of Attraction" and some are frustrated with their results. I'd like to share a story with you to illustrate one of the reasons that it might not be working for you. I began using the "Law of Attraction" as a child. I'd use ...
Views: 1695 - What Makes Forgiveness Possible? - by Submitted on Apr 03, 2011 from Daniela RoherThere are two indispensable elements that make forgiveness possible. Without them, people struggle with anger, hurt, fear and insecurity, without resolution. Let’s take the case of a couple where one partner had an affair. This scenario is not uncommon in our society, where 50% of married ...
Views: 1689(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: He isn't shy about holding hands with a black girl - by Submitted on May 26, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I started dating a man 2 years younger than me, who is from another country. I thought he was very sweet and gentlemanly and of course I'm really attracted to him, and he eventually asked me on a date. We've had several dates, and he's very considerate, very ...
Views: 1686 - Being of Service - by Submitted on Oct 27, 2016 from Todd BranstonI haven’t posted any new material for well over a year. Apologies. My goal is to create at least two blog posts per month and strive towards two new podcasts per month. I’ve suffered from horrible writer’s block, and until today I couldn’t move past my current ‘block’ If you’ve followed me on ...
Views: 1685 - Boundaries: The unsung heroes of Awesome Relationships - by Submitted on Jun 17, 2013 from Marcus Ambrester"Boundaries" from Chaprter 7 of Pillars of Awesome Relationships. “I only have to be willing to get up one more time than him,” Deena said about disciplining her son and constantly enforcing boundaries with him. Her son tested limits and pushed boundaries with her all day, every day. She ...
Views: 1685 - Trust is a Bogus Issue - by Submitted on Jul 24, 2009 from Gary RobertsonA primary conflict within relationships gets labeled “trust issues.” He needs to trust her to be there for him and she must trust him to remain interested only in her. We have a social convention that sexual fidelity tells us who is trustable and anyone cheating cannot be trusted. Breaking trust ...
Views: 1682 - How to Rebuild Trust in Your Marriage After an Affair - by Submitted on Mar 14, 2011 from Andrew HunterI know that it can be difficult healing your marriage after an affair. One of the biggest problems that has to be addressed is the problem of trust. If your husband cheated on you, it is common to feel that you can’t trust him or uncertain if he will cheat again. But here I’d like to share a ...
Views: 1680(1 vote) - Are You Here Only To Be Truly Helpful? - by Submitted on Jan 04, 2017 from Dorothy NeddermeyerMany people say with pride—“I’m a giver.” However, no one announces, “I'm a receiver”—albeit there are more receivers than givers. The age old question— “Is It better to give than to receive,” is a miss nomer. The truth of the matter is, while you are giving you are receiving and while you ...
Views: 1677(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: How Can I get over the nervousness of dating again? - by Submitted on Apr 01, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: How can one get over the nervousness of dating again when its been quite a few years since their last date? Dear Reader: If your last relationship lasted for a while, dating again can be a scary proposition. These guidelines can help: Dr. Romance's ...
Views: 1669 - Jealousy, Faithfulness, and Distance - by Submitted on Apr 04, 2013 from Tina TessinaSo many couples are now separated part- or full-time because of military deployment and/or work travel and schedules, I get a lot of questions about faithfulness. Your marriage vows may have said, “'til death do us part” but no one said anything about what happens when a military career or ...
Views: 1668(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: I still can't seem to get over it -- Is that normal? - by Submitted on Nov 30, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost two years now. There is a seventeen year difference in age. I left for two and a half months to help my older sister during her second pregnancy because her husband was in Iraq. When I came back I found out ...
Views: 1662(1 vote) - To Stay or Leave a Struggling Marriage? - by Submitted on Feb 19, 2017 from Nicola BeerToday we live in an age that promotes self-awareness BUT when it comes to relationships, it fails to show us how to use our self-awareness to arrive at good decisions. Most of the advice we get makes our problems even worse. There are literally millions of men and women ambivalent about ...
Views: 1658 - A Fisherman's Beliefs Killed Him - Beliefs Are Real - by Submitted on Jun 30, 2013 from Kael RanschaertAfter a long day of fishing the bright sea, an Indian fisherman heads home to port. The sea with its endless potential treated him very well today and he was sure to gain huge reward after selling his catch. The fishing market had been bustling as of recent and the demand for the fisherman’s ...
Views: 1654(1 vote) - Love Addictions - by Submitted on Feb 20, 2013 from Yamaya CruzI just want to give you a short quiz on what you think love is. A, Do you think that love is about reciprocity? B, Do you feel that love is about openness, honesty, and sharing? C, Do you feel that love is about calling someone ten to twenty times a day, monitoring their Facebook page like it ...
Views: 1653 - I DARE YOU TO ASK THIS - by Submitted on Apr 26, 2017 from Janet PfeifferRelationships are critically important in our lives. On a professional level, being a good team player and getting along well with others enables us to maintain our jobs and receive such perks as bonuses or promotions. Also, connecting with the right people can advance our careers providing we ...
Views: 1651 - The Fine Crystal Goblet - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2008 from Gail ElliottTrust is like a fine crystal goblet. Once we have this goblet in our possession we are responsible for its care, regardless of how we received it, regardless of whether we thought we wanted it. Sometimes someone hands us this goblet as a gift. Trust bestowed in this manner is an act of faith, ...
Views: 1648(1 vote) - How to cope up worries and fears - by Submitted on Nov 09, 2012 from princessgen patrisThere are two most common elements that hinder us in reaching our goals. These two come together and block our roads to the life that we want. When we learn to overcome them, there’s no way that we will not land to the path that we wanted to travel. Worry and Fear come together and are our ...
Views: 1647 - When Our Heart Compels Us To Make Difficult Choices - by Submitted on May 29, 2011 from Randi FineIt isn’t always easy to do something that we feel in our heart is the right thing to do. Often we find that a difficult decision we felt compelled to act upon is unpopular and met with judgment, hostility, and reprimanding by those who are not even personally affected by our actions. Those ...
Views: 1645(1 vote) - Boundaries: The unsung heroes of Awesome Relationships - by Submitted on Jun 17, 2013 from Marcus Ambrester"Boundaries" from Chaprter 7 of Pillars of Awesome Relationships. “I only have to be willing to get up one more time than him,” Deena said about disciplining her son and constantly enforcing boundaries with him. Her son tested limits and pushed boundaries with her all day, every day. She ...
Views: 1644 - Dear Dr. Romance: How do I handle jealousy? - by Submitted on Dec 12, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Just read a fine article of your from a link off the internet, and was wondering your best recommendation of the books you've wrote for jealousy and suspicious minds in a marriage with no real proof? Dear Reader: "Handling the Green-Eyed ...
Views: 1642(2 votes) - How Do Parents Feel When Their Children Tell The Truth! - by Submitted on Nov 30, 2010 from Antoinette CapriRecently, while shopping in the market, a little girl tells her mother that she hates when she spends so much time with her boyfriend and not with her. The mother doesn't react to the little girl, but instead chooses to ignore her statement and kept on shopping for her groceries. The little girl ...
Views: 1642(4 votes) - Uncontrollable - by Submitted on Nov 08, 2012 from Anastacia BriceBetween the wish and the thing life lies waiting. -- Unknown When you're stuck in a situation you can't control, how do you handle it? Really think about that. When you have to sit in traffic on the highway for two hours because a truck overturned up ahead and there's no way ...
Views: 1635(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Should he rent a room in his ex's house? - by Submitted on Aug 19, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance, Should a man expect a woman to want to become involved with him when he is still best friends with is ex-lover--and he is a renter in her house? He claims it is all over between them, but I don't see how he or the ex-lover should expect a woman to feel comfortable ...
Views: 1634(2 votes) - Psychotherapy and the "Middle Way" - by Submitted on Oct 16, 2011 from Beth PattersonWhen I hear the clients in my psychotherapy and grief counseling practice talk in black and white terms, or view their options in terms of extremes, I am reminded of the Buddhist concept of the Middle Way. When the Buddha was asked how one should meditate, he responded "not too tight, not too ...
Views: 1634(1 vote) - 6 Ways to Improve Trust in Your Relationships - by Submitted on Oct 29, 2012 from SadaNam Kaur“The Most Expensive thing in the world is trust… It can take years to earn and just a matter of seconds to lose” I am sure that you have experienced how trusting relationships are simply easy and flowing, whereas ones without trust require much more work and involve conflict and power ...
Views: 1629 - The Nature of the Soul - by Submitted on Sep 19, 2013 from Hope BradfordThere are many experiences of the truth of who you are: "The Authentic Self is the part of you that lives before and after this lifetime, that is eternal…When you leave [your experience here on earth] you have a lot more power. It won’t be ego-based power. Rather it will be beyond ego, ...
Views: 1628(2 votes) - 5 Important Financial Planning Tips for Married Couples. - by Submitted on Jan 20, 2013 from Yvonne and George LevyYou are happily married and running a home with your spouse. Congratulations! Your marriage partner is the single most important business partner you have, and your credit, financial reputation and overall economic picture is closely tied to this person who may or may not have the same ...
Views: 1625(2 votes) - Sustaining Absolute Trust in Ourselves - by Submitted on Jun 09, 2011 from Debra RebleAbsolute trust in ourselves governs how we perceive and respond to all challenges in life. It affords us the personal power to express pure love, flow with the stream of life, and transcend any difficult circumstance. For example, with such trust we can embrace every situation not as a source of ...
Views: 1625(2 votes) - Changing our thoughts to attract the love we seek - by Submitted on Sep 03, 2009 from Asha Oshun'MaliChanging our thoughts to attract the love we seek Healthy relationships can not be formed where negatives exists. If we view a potential mate from the vantage point of distrust, apprehension, or anger-due to personal or indirect childhood traumas, then we will enter into a relationship ...
Views: 1618(2 votes) - Manual for Life - by Submitted on Jul 06, 2009 from joanna WarwickWhen faced with decisions a battle commences between our hearts and our heads. Our heads are full of so called ‘common sense’; others people’s ideas of how we should exist. The should’s and oughts’s of society, culture and family. ‘What will other people think if I do this?’ mentality. But it is ...
Views: 1618(3 votes) - How Are You Feeling Crazy or Connected? Find Out How To Be Connetced NOW! - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2012 from Debbi DachingerAre You Feeling Crazy or Connected? Doesn’t everybody you know have their own particular brand of crazy? You can know the coolest person and they have at least one something that is a problem for them. People can look at another person and think that they person has it all together and from ...
Views: 1608 - Dear Dr. Romance: It would be embarrassing if they found out it was a wig - by Submitted on Apr 03, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: This question is a little hard for me because it is very personal. My husband and I were married for 24 years before he passed away. During our time together, I developed a severe case of alopecia which has left me with very little hair. This did not bother my ...
Views: 1605 - Is it okay to snoop on your partner’s phone? - by Submitted on Oct 16, 2017 from Nicola BeerSnooping comes up time and time again in my work with couples from all over the world online. Arguments over discoveries after snooping on phones are frequent. This has included 1. Facebook messages to ex’s, 2. Whats app messages sharing intimate details or marriage complaints to friends, ...
Views: 1601 - Consciously Preparing For Death - by Submitted on Nov 24, 2014 from Marc LernerMany of us have lived a life where we have become proficient in accomplishing goals; we live our lives in that state of mind. When we are close to the end of life, what is our goal? In our lives, we have been "the Doer," where we do things by focusing on our thoughts. Preparing for death ...
Views: 1599 - Fearless Living - by Submitted on Nov 25, 2009 from Denise Rolenknow you might not believe it if I said: Most of your decisions are based on fear? Most of your thoughts and feelings come from fear? When you look beyond the denial you will see exactly how many of your thoughts, feelings and decisions about routine and exceptional daily activities come from a ...
Views: 1599(9 votes) - The Ultimate Guide to Choosing Your College Roommate - by Submitted on May 29, 2018 from Catherine PalmerThere are so many things to think about when it comes to colleges. Starting from an application, then waiting for a response and getting anxiety attacks whether to open the envelope or not when it finally arrives. Moreover, that is not the end of it. In life, you will confront tough ...
Views: 1592 - Dear Dr. Romance: I caught tremendous flak from co-workers - by Submitted on Feb 28, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Excellent advice and a most excellent article I just read about older women dating younger men and age differences. I'm a 50 year old single male and have been single for 15 years with no children and have dated younger women on several occasions but did ...
Views: 1591(2 votes) - 21 Signs of an Affair That Cheating Husbands Are Compelled to Do - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2011 from Andrew HunterDo you think your husband may be cheating on you? I know the frustration and worry that something like this can cause. I’ve been there myself. Let me share a few things that a cheating partner can’t help but do. These are small things that can easily get overlooked, but these are the trail ...
Views: 1589(1 vote) - Relationships: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Believe That People Can't Be Trusted? - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIt is important for human beings to work together, and this is because they’re interdependent; they need each other. So when they’re able to put their differences to one side and to find a common ground, their own lives are going to be a lot easier. This doesn’t mean that everyone needs to ...
Views: 1588 - 3 Essential Guidelines for Better Communication With Your Partner - by Submitted on Feb 22, 2016 from Michael BroderBefore that loving Valentine's Day momentum fades away, think of this season as a great time to focus on effective communication with your partner. So regardless of what else is going on between the two of you, by keeping these essentials of good communication in mind, you can only make things ...
Views: 1587 - Tips to Fight Depression with Meditation - by Submitted on Sep 25, 2017 from Eileen O'ShanassyOne of the most common, yet most complex diseases that afflict people across all demographics is depression. The combination of psychosocial and biological factors that cause depression makes it one of the most prevalent medical and mental health conditions today. We all have our ups and downs, ...
Views: 1587 - Who Really Cheats - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2010 from Womens Recreation, Inc.It seems like everyone wants to know who is more likely to cheat and what the signs are. Well the plain truth of the matter is that you absolutely have no control over the actions of another person. They will cheat if they want to. Whatever they want to do, they will do it. Don’t take it ...
Views: 1587(4 votes) - How long does it take to heal after an affair? The stages of healing after an affair – By Nicola Beer - by Submitted on Oct 02, 2017 from Nicola BeerHaving worked with 100’s of couples now looking to repair the relationship or heal themselves after an affair, most want to know how long does it take to heal and what are the stages of healing after an affair. Like when dealing with a significant loss, loss of a loved one, financial loss or ...
Views: 1586 - ACoAs’ Need for REVENGE - by Submitted on Feb 23, 2011 from Donna TorbicoMAKE THEM SUFFER ! The same way they made me suffer! This post, of course, is about those of us raised in a variety of abusive, dysfunctional families & communities AS CHILDREN a. External CAUSES - Growing up, our parents & other adults: • blamed us unfairly, for all kinds of things ...
Views: 1585 - How Can I Find Love...And Keep It? - by Submitted on May 24, 2012 from Merry WiseTell me if this has happened to you? You meet a great guy, you start to fall for him and *poof*! He disappears. Or... you've been seeing each other every weekend and he suddenly has to work this weekend. And the next. And the next. You've been talking on the phone everyday, but one day he ...
Views: 1583(2 votes) - Regain Peace of Mind: Trash Those Unwanted Thoughts! - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2013 from Noelle NelsonYou made up. The argument is long over; life with your sweetheart is back to normal. Except for that little nagging thought that keeps running through your brain, with the determined persistence of a hamster on a treadmill: “How could he/she do that? How could he/she say that about me in front ...
Views: 1583 - Dr. Romance on Friends in Need: Interventions for Domestic Violence - by Submitted on Sep 23, 2013 from Tina TessinaLast month, Dr. Romance received the following letter from a reader: “A topic I would like you to cover/explore is that curious phenomenon which permits otherwise independent women to be dominated...even abused...by males with whom they share some sort or relationship. Why is it that a ...
Views: 1580(1 vote) - Only You Can Make Your Decisions - by Submitted on Dec 11, 2011 from Lacy S. PierceWe are faced with many decisions, small and large, every day of our lives from the time we become completely self-aware and aware of the world around us. As very young children, most of our decisions center around choosing whether or not to heed parental or schoolteacher instructions, choosing ...
Views: 1579 - How to STOP the Same Arguments Resurfacing and Become Closer - by Submitted on Apr 02, 2017 from Nicola BeerAre you exhausted of the same topics, issues or arguments resurfacing time and time again in your relationship? Are you sick and tired of the emotional relationship rollercoaster you find yourself on? If you have tried speaking to your spouse (or even tried marriage counselling) and nothing ...
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