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- Fear: Are Some People Addicted To Fear? - by Submitted on Dec 04, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperJust as there are some people who experience fear from time to time, there are also some people who experience it on a regular basis. Due to this, their experience on this earth is likely to be radically different. One way of looking at this would be to say that when it comes to the former, ...
Views: 37 - Forgive Yourself, you struggle with mental illness....... - by Submitted on Nov 18, 2018 from Astharte De Los SantosPsychosis and Bipolar Disorder 2 I just rose out of a crying moment where I was hearing, seeing and feeling that I will never overcome my present circumstances. I mean my life is not that bad. I am 31, live in my mother’s home STILL, along with my daughter. My mother is elderly yet very ...
Views: 140(1 vote) - How Billy Graham’s Death Signals End-Times for 2019 - by Submitted on Nov 18, 2018 from Richard Ruhling“As it was in the days of Noah,” Methuselah was the oldest man in the Bible and he died the year of the Flood. His name meant, at his death, the sending forth of waters. He died the year of the Flood as a sign it was impending. This author suggested similar for Billy Graham here. “History ...
Views: 384(1 vote) - The Fear of Getting Old - by Submitted on Nov 11, 2018 from Sheryl PaulWe live in an ageist culture. It’s not only that we’re terrified of death and hurry to sequester the topic away under the nearest rock or stuff it into the closest corner; it’s that, in a culture that reveres youth, beauty, and physical perfection, we fear aging itself. We fear the lines that ...
Views: 87 - “My Partner Isn’t Smart Enough” - by Submitted on Oct 31, 2018 from Sheryl Paul“One of the big traps we have in the West is our intelligence, because we want to know what we know. Freedom allows you to be wise, but you cannot know wisdom. You must be wisdom… The intellect is a beautiful servant, but a terrible master. Intellect is the power tool of our separateness. The ...
Views: 139 - The Art of Patient Loving - by Submitted on Oct 31, 2018 from Sheryl PaulPerhaps the area of our lives to suffer most from the increasingly fast pace of the culture is love, for the expectation of immediate results naturally leads to a belief that love should not only be easy, but that when there’s a problem, it should be remediated quickly. Love doesn’t work this ...
Views: 123 - You Can't Stop the Waves but You Can Learn to Surf - by Submitted on Oct 31, 2018 from Sheryl PaulAt the core of anxiety – whether health anxiety, death anxiety, relationship anxiety, or generalized anxiety – is the need for safety. As I’ve been writing about in my last few posts, left to our own unguided minds, the ego will latch onto our stories to try to gain a foothold into the ...
Views: 128 - Surviving (And Thriving) From Throat Cancer - by Submitted on Oct 28, 2018 from David HarmRecently I learned a former co-worker I knew in Nebraska was diagnosed with throat cancer. I wouldn’t wish any cancer on my worst enemy, but having gone through throat cancer I know first hand how difficult the treatment can be. My ex-wife hand breast cancer and I watched her go through ...
Views: 94 - Texas Mental Health Stats & Quick Tips - by Submitted on Oct 24, 2018 from Perfect Home DefenseAccording to Mental Health America (MHA), the total population of Texas is above 26 million. There are 72.9 percent adults in TX; while 27.1 percent are below 18. More than 6 million Texans have a mental issue. This number includes 1.4 million kids. The estimate further shows that more than 1 ...
Views: 85 - The Art of Making Decisions - by Submitted on Oct 04, 2018 from Sheryl PaulOur culture fails to teach us the essential skills we need to navigate through life successfully in so many ways. As I discuss often on this site, it fails to teach us about healthy, real love. It fails to teach us about how to feel our feelings and work with our thoughts. It fails to guide us ...
Views: 145 - The Scariest Thing We Do - by Submitted on Oct 04, 2018 from Sheryl PaulEvery day that I work with clients struggling with relationship anxiety I find myself saying some version of, “Of course you’re scared. Loving is the scariest thing we do.” As I’ve written about several times on this blog, fear doesn’t always present as fear but instead shows up as irritation, ...
Views: 228 - Shrink Fear Grow Love - by Submitted on Oct 04, 2018 from Sheryl PaulWhen the fear-fog clears, when the projection that has kept him separate from you and sealed a barnacle over your heart finally shatters, you see your partner as if for the first time. Not only do you see her clearly, in all of her sweet and simple splendor, but the delusions of separateness ...
Views: 142 - Invisible Lines of Hope - by Submitted on Oct 04, 2018 from Sheryl PaulOut beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing there is a field. I’ll meet you there. When the soul lies down in that grass the world is too full to talk about. Rumi When we’re being asked to unpack a new layer of wound that will lead to healing, it can feel daunting, overwhelming, and ...
Views: 121 - Breaking the Stigma!! Women Raising Mental Health Awareness - by Submitted on Oct 02, 2018 from Astharte De Los SantosLast month was Mental Health Awareness month so there was a lot of talk about mental health, everywhere. Many influencers were helping raise awareness on this important topic encouraging others to become more vocal about mental illness whether it affects them personally or a loved one. A ...
Views: 136 - Unpacking Intrusive Thoughts - by Submitted on Sep 19, 2018 from Sheryl PaulOver the years, I’ve worked with many clients who have suffered from the intrusive thought, “What if my partner is gay?” (or “What if my partner is straight?” for those in a same-sex relationship), and while I’ve written several posts on the “What if I’m gay?” spike I haven’t written about what ...
Views: 137 - Pregnancy Anxiety - by Submitted on Sep 19, 2018 from Sheryl PaulAs I’ve written about before on this blog, one of the privileges of being the position of guiding people through the darkest aspects of their psyche and soul is that they share thoughts and feelings with me that they wouldn’t share with anyone else. Part of the reason why they share openly about ...
Views: 137 - Something is Wrong - by Submitted on Sep 19, 2018 from Sheryl PaulFear-mind has a special genius for trying to prove that it’s right. It’s like we all have this aspect of our personality – some call it ego, other call it lower self – that has secretly attended law school and graduated at the top of its class. This character, terrified of change, will gather ...
Views: 134 - Perfection and The Fear of Failure - by Submitted on Sep 19, 2018 from Sheryl Paul“It’s better to make a mistake with the full force of your being than to carefully avoid mistakes with a trembling spirit.” – Dan Millman, The Way of the Peaceful Warrior When I was in graduate school many ago, my classmates would often ask me how I was able to write papers so quickly and ...
Views: 151 - The Fear of Losing Control - by Submitted on Sep 06, 2018 from Sheryl PaulWhen we spiral down into the deeper layers of anxiety – whether relationship anxiety or any other form that anxiety takes – we find some universal root causes that live at the center. These exist on both the emotional and psychological/spiritual planes, and they all need our attention if we’re ...
Views: 150 - The Critical Moment to Break Free From Anxiety - by Submitted on Sep 06, 2018 from Sheryl Paul“Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.” – Viktor E. Frankl If we could slow life down to micro-moments, if we could literally alter time like a movie turning it into sloooooow ...
Views: 142 - Intrusive Thought: "What if I Harm a Child?" (POCD) - by Submitted on Sep 06, 2018 from Sheryl PaulWhen the same thought, image, dream, or motif shows up across cultures and crosses all of our lines of classification (age, gender, geography, race, religion), we call it an archetype. For example, the dreams where you show up at school without your pants on or have forgotten to study for a test ...
Views: 95 - Caught in a Thought - by Submitted on Sep 06, 2018 from Sheryl PaulA coaching client recently shared the following (shared here with her permission): A few weeks ago, I found myself obsessively thinking about a situation with a friend of mine – someone to whom I’ve given my power for many years. I was completely caught by this theme and I couldn’t get out ...
Views: 187 - Passive Aggressive Behaviour. - by Submitted on Aug 25, 2018 from David HarmI am becoming more and more aware that in my past I was a master at passive aggressive behaviour. I played head games with people to try and make them do things that I wanted them to do. The reason for this awareness is because for well over the last year it has been being done to me. ...
Views: 144 - What If I Make a Mistake? - by Submitted on Aug 11, 2018 from Sheryl PaulWhen my boys were learning how to write, they would freeze in their tracks for fear of making a spelling mistake. Their perfectionist tendencies were not a surprise to my husband and I – after all, the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree – and it was both fascinating and painful to see how ...
Views: 161 - An Emotional Side of Erectile Dysfunction - by Submitted on Aug 01, 2018 from Ronda BehnkeSteve, 68, had just retired. It had been his second attempt at retiring. The first was when he was 65, but his wife was still working, so he found it difficult to adjust to retired life. When his wife retired 3 years later, Steve thought he would be just fine. But then he had difficulty ...
Views: 191 - 35 Affirmations That Will Change Your Life - by Submitted on Jul 29, 2018 from Carmen HarraWords are responsible for everything we hold to be true; We believe the things we believe because someone spoke them to us. But in our day to day lives, we rarely recognize the magnitude of our speech. We tell ourselves both good and bad things every day, often without paying attention to what ...
Views: 443 - When Anxious, Start at the Beginning - by Submitted on Jul 27, 2018 from Sheryl PaulAnxiety is a messenger, a symptom, and a gift. I know that statement flies in the face of everything we learn about anxiety in a culture that is pathologically obsessed with eradicating shadow at every turn and consequently attempts to “get rid of” the symptom of anxiety as quickly and cleanly ...
Views: 225 - Am I Only With My Partner Because He Makes Me Feel Safe? - by Submitted on Jul 27, 2018 from Sheryl PaulThere are so many ways the ego tries to dismantle real love, and it’s favorite is to perseverate on a single question until it tires itself out, then jump to the next story. I’ve dissected many of these questions on this blog and in my courses, approaching each in the same way: name it as an ...
Views: 235 - When Love Makes You Flinch - by Submitted on Jul 27, 2018 from Sheryl PaulOne of the common fear-lines that arises when the ego is trying to deconstruct the idea of relationship anxiety and convince you that your truth is that you’re just with the wrong person is: “If what Sheryl says is true, why don’t more people talk about it?” It’s an understandable question, ...
Views: 233 - Conversations with my Seven Year Old: In the Fear Forest - by Submitted on Jul 27, 2018 from Sheryl PaulOne of the blessings of having a second child is that we, as parents, gain some skills by walking with the first one through predictable stages of growth, maturity, illness, and emotional challenges. When our firstborn had a high fever, we panicked. When the younger one has a fever, it’s old ...
Views: 192 - Conversations with my Seven Year Old: In the Fear Forest - by Submitted on Jul 27, 2018 from Sheryl PaulOne of the blessings of having a second child is that we, as parents, gain some skills by walking with the first one through predictable stages of growth, maturity, illness, and emotional challenges. When our firstborn had a high fever, we panicked. When the younger one has a fever, it’s old ...
Views: 118 - How to Deal with Nervousness During Driving Tests - Few Tips - by Submitted on Jul 24, 2018 from Ron SpencerMost of us are skeptical about exams. We always have been, right throughout our schools days. Frankly speaking, we cannot part away with this skepticism all throughout our lives. Even when it comes to facing driving tests at the end of our driving courses, that cynicism gets the better of ...
Views: 205 - Maintaining Sanity and Keeping Balance in a Chaotic World! - by Submitted on Jun 30, 2018 from Sharon ShoresKeeping ourselves balanced during challenging times..... can be difficult! Sometimes it may feel like you are on the roller coaster of life and you weren't even asked to get on the roller coaster. You just "happened" to grab the handle bar and are holding on for dear life! Many people feel ...
Views: 226 - Hiding and Shrinking: What Disney's Frozen Can Teach Us About Being Emotionally Intense - by Submitted on May 29, 2018 from Imi LoSome people are naturally more intense than others. They are often told that they are ‘too much,’, ’too sensitive,’ ‘too emotional. People who feel more deeply and intensely than others are more aware of subtleties; their brain processes information and reflects on it more deeply. At ...
Views: 426 - The Gifts Inside of Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) - by Submitted on May 29, 2018 from Imi LoIt is increasingly being recognized that many individuals who receive the diagnosis of BPD are naturally highly intuitive and perceptive. What was previously thought of as a genetic vulnerability may reflect an innate talent. People who were born emotionally intense, sensitive and are ...
Views: 413 - It Takes Courage to Put Ourselves Out There - by Submitted on Apr 13, 2018 from Mike RobbinsIn the past few weeks I’ve been thinking a lot about the courage it takes to step out, take risks, and put ourselves out there. Even though I know how important this is for growth, in business, and for life – I still find it tricky, scary, and challenging at times. I also realize it’s one thing ...
Views: 450 - How Fear Traps You Into Being Someone You Are Not - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2018 from Christiana StarThe fear response is triggered when facing danger. The ‘danger’ could be not measuring up to a desirable or imposed standard, not getting done what you set out to do, not fulfilling your own or other people’s expectations, being seen as less than perfect or failing at something. There is also ...
Views: 451 - This Technique Actually Heals Trauma! - by Submitted on Mar 28, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperAround the middle of last year, there was a day when I felt like trying yoga again, and this was partly due to the fact that I felt lighter. What also gave me a boost was that I had just spent the afternoon with a friend. I had thought about doing this before, but I hadn’t taken the next ...
Views: 594 - Rape Alarm Recent Survey from Students - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2018 from G WILLIAMSRecent surveys have indicated that one-third of female students in Britain had experienced sexual assault or unwanted advances while at college. But are universities doing enough? Some colleges have been criticised for not taking rape and sexual assault complaints seriously enough. There is a ...
Views: 498(1 vote) - Call the Witch by Its True Name - by Submitted on Mar 09, 2018 from Sheryl PaulMy favorite fairy tale when I was a child was Rumpelstiltskin, the story of a girl who makes a bargain with an imp-like creature in exchange for saving her life from being executed by the king. First she gives the imp a necklace, then a ring, then promises her firstborn child. But when her child ...
Views: 531 - Sense Of Safety: If Someone Feels Unsafe Does It Mean That They Live In An Unsafe Environment? - by Submitted on Mar 09, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIn the same way that someone needs to eat in order to function at their best, it could also be said that they need to feel safe, too. The food they eat will give them the energy they need, but if they don’t feel safe enough to face the world, it won’t matter. Taking this into account, the ...
Views: 514 - 5 Life Lessons I Learned While Job Hunting in New York - by Submitted on Mar 07, 2018 from Hannah FronczakMy favorite part about living in New York is that everyone here has a story about how they "made it". It's almost romantic. Looking for a job is here is hyper-competitive and most recommend finding your job here before you move. However, most companies won't take you seriously until you have ...
Views: 489 - Critical Thinking: Do Our Fears Always Reflect Reality? - by Submitted on Feb 27, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to walk down a dark alley way and heard people running towards them, it could be said that it would be normal for them to experience fear. For one thing, they won’t know why these people are running towards them, with this being the reason why their body is getting them ready to ...
Views: 481 - Being open-minded has great benefits - by Submitted on Feb 12, 2018 from Joan Marie WhelanSometimes it is difficult to open your mind and take a look at different ideas or opinions other than your own. I have found, however, that when I open my mind, I realize a great deal of rewarding benefits. You have the power to heal your life and empower yourself in the process when you view ...
Views: 408 - In Bed With Fear - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2018 from Sheryl PaulWe hear a lot about the power of fear these days, and the way we culturally/psychologically talk about it speaks to our beliefs that there are forces “out there” that are dark or evil that we need to overpower. In the early days of my work, I also spoke of fear in these terms, but over the years ...
Views: 389 - Relationship Anxiety: Intuition or Fear? - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2018 from Sheryl PaulA subset topic of the million-dollar question – is my anxiety/doubt evidence that my truth is that I’m with the wrong partner or does it mean something else? – is the issue of intuition versus anxiety. In other words, embedded inside every question of the mind suffering from relationship ...
Views: 1456 - Europe: Making Islam Great Again as Daniel 8 Foretold 2500 Years Ago - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2018 from Richard Ruhling'We are importing Islamic extremism, Arab anti-Semitism, national and ethnic conflicts of other peoples' “We cannot and will never be able to stop migration”, wrote the EU’s Commissioner for Migration, Home Affairs and Citizenship, Dimitris Avramopoulos recently. “At the end of the day, we ...
Views: 380 - 5 Approaches to Make a Qualities Driven Organization Culture By Kranti Gaurav - by Submitted on Jan 31, 2018 from Kranti GauravBuilding a qualities driven association includes substantially more than slapping a couple of cutout words onto a page: it's tied in with uncovering the convictions that issue to your group and placing them into movement. Whenever enacted, those convictions will transform into your ...
Views: 420(1 vote) - Risk Aversion and Anxiety - by Submitted on Jan 31, 2018 from Sheryl PaulI’m standing on the edge of my life, as if on the shores of a cold but beautiful lake. I want to dive in but I’m scared, only the fear doesn’t sound like fear as much as doubt, anxiety, uncertainty, and ambivalence. What if I make a mistake? What if the water is too cold and I can’t breathe? ...
Views: 407 - The News and Anxiety - by Submitted on Jan 31, 2018 from Sheryl PaulWe live in uncertain times, and that statement alone can send an anxious-sensitive personality type into a tailspin. But the truth is that we’ve always lived in uncertain times. Because death exists, our lives hang in the balance on this precious and precarious planet. The threats change faces – ...
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