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- How To Create Change In Yourself - by Submitted on Sep 01, 2011 from Adam BenedettoWhen you wish you could live your life differently, what is holding you back? If you truly want to change, what is stopping you, why can't you do it? For so many of us, we seem to be blocked by the inability to alter our own behaviors, even when we know we need to. What limits our capability ...
Views: 1166(1 vote) - Finding Your Meaning - by Submitted on Jan 16, 2012 from Adam BenedettoFinding out where we belong in life is very important, and that answer can be gained by going inward. We intrinsically already know what we are meant for; we just tend to overlook this. We instead look outside of ourselves for the answers, assuming they will come from somewhere or someone else. ...
Views: 1161 - Stress and Your Past - by Submitted on Nov 11, 2011 from Adam BenedettoWe need to let go of our fears, for often the reason we are so stressed is because we fear a recurrence of our past. We fear what may be, and so our bodies are tense and ready for any outcome. We cannot relax into the moment if we fear our past coming back to us. Even if we seem at ease, are we ...
Views: 1149(1 vote) - How To Find Peace During Your Day - by Submitted on Feb 06, 2012 from Adam BenedettoIn order to find peace, we do not need to escape the moment we are in. We may think that we must have things be a certain way in order to feel peaceful. We may believe peace can only be found during certain types of moments. This is not true. All moments can provide peace to us if we can be with ...
Views: 1147 - Being Open To Your Future - by Submitted on Jul 04, 2011 from Adam BenedettoLife is not about making plans or deciding how your future will be. The life we live is about right now, today, and no other time. When we let go of our ideas for our future, when we shed our predetermined goals and open ourselves up to now, we can start to live the life we are meant to and ...
Views: 1135(2 votes) - How To Tame The Thoughts In Your Mind - by Submitted on Feb 03, 2012 from Adam BenedettoOur mind seems to wander on its own, seeming to escape our abilities to tame it. How do we go about harnessing our thoughts and controlling our mind so that we can be present? This is a very good question and one that many have tried to answer. But there is no one answer, for it really comes ...
Views: 1114(2 votes) - The Source Of Your Happiness - by Submitted on May 07, 2011 from Adam BenedettoAwakening the source of your happiness is about letting go of the idea that you are waiting for something or holding yourself back. It is about being present with where you are in life. It is about connecting to your true self and letting yourself be you just as you are. All of these things ...
Views: 1114 - Being Honest And Clear About A Relationship - by Submitted on May 23, 2011 from Adam BenedettoSometimes we don’t look that closely at our relationships because we fear that we might realize something we don’t want to see. If we keep our understanding of each other at a superficial level, then our expectations will be met. We try not to look too closely at what may be wrong within each ...
Views: 1106 - Looking For Love - by Submitted on Jun 28, 2011 from Adam BenedettoDuring life, we all seek to know someone well enough to feel love and be loved; we seek to connect and be a part of another person's life. When we look for love, sometimes we are looking for a lot more than love itself. We are not just looking for someone to be with, but we are also looking to ...
Views: 1101(2 votes) - Dealing With The Loss Of A Loved One - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2011 from Adam BenedettoWhen we lose someone close to our heart we let go of a part of ourselves. In order to deal with heartache and loss we close ourselves off. By protecting ourselves at a time of deep grief and sadness we seek solace by not being present. How can one process something so big, so hurtful? How ...
Views: 1099(1 vote) - Creating Your Own Happiness - by Submitted on May 14, 2011 from Adam BenedettoCreating your own happiness is letting go of what is holding it back, for we are all meant to be happy in our lives, living from a place of enjoyment, contentment ,and love. Why then does it feel like sometimes your life is missing this element; why are you without it? It can feel this way and ...
Views: 1095(1 vote) - How To Deal With Changes - by Submitted on Sep 11, 2011 from Adam BenedettoWhat happens when our plans are changed or when things are not going our way? How do we deal with these kinds of moments? How do we let go of our plans so that we can shift with the moment in a less stressful way? When things happen that go against what we want, we have to be able to adjust ...
Views: 1084 - Letting Your Anger Go - by Submitted on Jun 18, 2011 from Adam BenedettoWhen we are angry, we feel like we have no control over it and that it overtakes us. Anger is such a strong emotion that once we go there, we are so riled up that the experience and how we feel tends to last a long time. Anger is an experience of not accepting life because it is when we choose ...
Views: 1083(1 vote) - Uncovering Your True Self - by Submitted on May 07, 2011 from Adam BenedettoUnderstanding your true nature is a fundamental part of your happiness. We tend to overlook this; instead, we act as who we think we are. We look for our behaviors to correlate with who we think we are rather than what we really are. We act a certain way so that the idea of ourselves is ...
Views: 1081 - Checking In With Yourself - by Submitted on Jan 29, 2012 from Adam BenedettoWhen we wake up in the morning, what do we think about first? Is it what do I have to do next, where do I have to go today, or what needs to be done? How rarely do we think about how we are doing and what we need? So often we overlook ourselves from the very beginning. It starts when we wake up ...
Views: 1080(2 votes) - Finding True Love - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2011 from Adam BenedettoWe all desire to be with that special someone, to find the one we are meant to be with. Yet it feels hard and sometimes impossible to connect and to be found. There are so many people, so many to search through, so many choices. Yet even to meet the right one seems improbable. It is not. It ...
Views: 1077(6 votes) - How To Believe In Yourself - by Submitted on Sep 01, 2011 from Adam BenedettoWhen you look at the very core of who you are and ask yourself why you believe you are worth less, what do you hear? What put this in your thoughts originally, and why is it there? For the doubt stems from somewhere, you didn't always believe less of yourself. At one point you created this ...
Views: 1074(1 vote) - Guiding Your Child - by Submitted on Feb 22, 2011 from Adam BenedettoWhen we are raising our children we are guiding them through life, giving them advice and teaching them what they need to know. Children follow by example; they watch and listen to everything we do. What habits we have in ourselves can follow them in their lives. How we look at the world can ...
Views: 1039(5 votes) - Connect And Make Friends - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2011 from Adam BenedettoWe all know what it is like to be alone in a room surrounded by others, to see faces and yet not know how to connect or belong. There are so many people in this world satisfied with only knowing a few people because it is easy and stretching further is hard. To have a base of friends is ...
Views: 1037 - Learning To Relax And Be Present - by Submitted on Mar 24, 2011 from Adam BenedettoWe all know what it is like to be on the go, always moving and working at the next thing. Even our mind jumps ahead constantly, already beginning the next stage. What will you do tomorrow or the next day? How does it fit with what you have to do next? Whew, no wonder you are exhausted, tired, ...
Views: 1035(1 vote) - Energy and Being Tired - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2011 from Adam BenedettoHaving energy in life is about balance. It is about being clear and not being weighed down by thoughts, emotions. It is to let go of struggle and to remain present. Energy in life comes from connecting, from being present, and from being your true self. When we feel low our energy drops; when ...
Views: 1030 - The Moment You Are In Is The Only One That Exists - by Submitted on Jul 04, 2011 from Adam BenedettoBeing in the moment is a very important tool to finding happiness in your life, for if we are forever looking elsewhere, we will never be happy now. If we are always looking back at the life we had, we are losing our presence in now. Living in the moment is about being present; it is being ...
Views: 1027(1 vote) - Control Issues - by Submitted on Mar 24, 2011 from Adam BenedettoSome of us have the need to be in control, to manage everything around us, to keep it up to a certain standard. This can be exhausting, tiring and endless, for to manage everything, to be in charge and in control of all we see, is not only impossible but futile. For in truth, you can not ...
Views: 1026(1 vote) - Stress And Your Response - by Submitted on Jul 04, 2011 from Adam BenedettoWhen we are in a stressful situation, it is hard for us to respond or react clearly. We are overwhelmed by our emotions or thoughts, and therefore cannot see the situation for what it really is. We make it harder on ourselves because we are not only dealing with the moment at hand, but we are ...
Views: 1024 - Reason Behind Overeating - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2011 from Adam BenedettoFood for many has become a battleground; it exists in a way beyond nourishment into fulfillment. Sometimes we actively eat to satiate something other than hunger. We eat to feel better, to forget, to be in control, to relax and let go. The list goes on. It is when we eat for anything other ...
Views: 1018(4 votes) - What Is Destiny? - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2011 from Adam BenedettoWhen we think of our destiny, we think of fulfilling our purpose and living our life as we are meant to. But what does this really mean? Are we not already living our life doing what we do every day? Are we not finding purpose in our life already? The question really is, does your life, right ...
Views: 1018(1 vote) - Adjusting To Your Teenager - by Submitted on Jun 18, 2011 from Adam BenedettoWhen our children reach their teen years, they can become defiant and seem to be working against us. Why is this? Because they are trying to search out who they are, and in the process, their perception of you tends to change. This can be the hardest part; a once loving and rather obedient ...
Views: 1016(1 vote) - Releasing A Relationship - by Submitted on May 07, 2011 from Adam BenedettoLetting go of a relationship, whether it is a divorce, a separation, or ending a friendship, can be a very hard moment to go through. When we let go of anything we are emotionally attached to, we tend to prolong the moment with our desire and thoughts, especially if we are not the ones wishing ...
Views: 1000 - How To Stay In The Moment - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2011 from Adam BenedettoStaying present in life seems harder than it is. It is not about controlling yourself or always reminding yourself to stay present. In fact, it is the release of all of that that makes it possible. When we release ourselves, we can be present. When we let go of our ideas of control over ...
Views: 998 - Destiny And Your Purpose - by Submitted on Jun 28, 2011 from Adam BenedettoAs we walk through life, sometimes we fumble and lose our way; we neglect to choose the right path or follow our destiny. How do we know when this happens? We know when we find ourselves living a life that is empty and shallow of purpose and we find ourselves withdrawn from life; when we are ...
Views: 987 - Intuition and Self-Guidance - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2011 from Adam BenedettoIntuition is the part of yourself that is presented to guide and assist you. It is a call from within you to be listened to and believed. It is the truth of who you are reaching forward to be heard. Intuition plays many roles in its type of assistance, from small choices to important moments ...
Views: 976(1 vote) - Reaching Enlightenment - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2011 from Adam BenedettoEnlightenment is a journey; it is a way of seeking to understand all that is important and the truth of our own being. It is a goal and at the same time a way of existing in the world. It is without trying and without finding, for it is a presence that is already within. Each of us is capable ...
Views: 974(3 votes) - The Message Behind Recurring Dreams - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2011 from Adam BenedettoWhen we fall asleep we release tension, we relax and our mind slips away. We slide into another state, that of dreams and often of a very personal message to ourselves. When we look at dreams, especially recurring ones, we can see a theme. But what does it mean and how does it truly relate to ...
Views: 970(2 votes) - Living Your Dreams - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2011 from Adam BenedettoGetting what you want in life is vital to your happiness and success. Fulfilling our desires gives us hope and helps us to strive for more in future endeavors. By accomplishing what we set out to do, we gain the courage to keep on trying and the belief that we can and will keep on succeeding. ...
Views: 968 - How To Be Centered and Balanced In Life - by Submitted on Apr 30, 2011 from Adam BenedettoSo you try to do all the right things in life; you try to be present and engaged, relating to the moment, seeking truth, and yet you still feel lost and drawn away from reality. How do you stay centered even when you try? There can be many things that unbalance us and keep us from staying ...
Views: 963(1 vote) - Finding Friends - by Submitted on Jun 21, 2011 from Adam BenedettoHow do you create a new friendship and find someone who fits you and connects with you? It can feel hard, for if your job doesn’t provide that kind of openness or availability with others, then where do you look? Begin by finding a way to do what you like. If you are doing what you love, you ...
Views: 957(1 vote) - Being Present And Aware - by Submitted on Apr 30, 2011 from Adam BenedettoSeeing the moment for what it is, is important for how we relate to it. Without construing false pretenses or imagining outcomes, we let the moment be just as it is without further interpretation. To let the moment exist how it is, to be present with it, allows us to not only fully experience ...
Views: 955(1 vote) - Find Out About Past Lives - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2011 from Adam BenedettoGaining knowledge about your past life can be very insightful. It can show you things about yourself and why they are there. It can lift you up. For seeing who you were and what you did gives you strength. Your strengths now, who you are today, often reflect the purpose of your lives back ...
Views: 942(1 vote) - How To Fit In - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2011 from Adam BenedettoWe often look at the world as something to be gotten into, to find our place and where we fit. We search until we feel comfortable, stable and right with our place, but sometimes things change. Our group of friends may evolve; we might move or find ourselves just looking again. How do you fit ...
Views: 931(2 votes) - Being In The Moment - by Submitted on Mar 24, 2011 from Adam BenedettoBeing in the moment is about releasing everything, the purpose of this being that you then exist with nothing pulling at you. Therefore, there is openness, a clear space to be with no ulterior distractions. No pull forward or backward, but simply being present with where you are. There are ...
Views: 924(2 votes) - Overcome Fear - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2011 from Adam BenedettoWe all know what it is like to be afraid, hesitant, and unsure in our lives. Worried about outcomes or afraid of the past, it can be everywhere we look. Yet it is not real, it is not a true factor in our lives. We give it so much meaning and power. Fear is really a belief that we will fail, ...
Views: 921(2 votes) - Finding Peace Within - by Submitted on May 07, 2011 from Adam BenedettoLearning how to live peacefully is about no longer viewing life as a struggle and no longer feeling that you need to be in control or manage anything around you. Finding peace is about acceptance of everything, of not only yourself, but about accepting your place in life. This doesn’t mean in ...
Views: 915 - Freedom From Stress and Worry - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2011 from Adam BenedettoWhen we feel under pressure or stressed out, we tend to compartmentalize the issues. We categorize the event, the problem, or how we are seeing it and then justify our behavior. Life is not about obstacles or about seeing what needs to be done. We live our lives in constant awareness of the ...
Views: 912(1 vote) - How To Achieve Prosperity - by Submitted on Feb 22, 2011 from Adam BenedettoWe are all meant to exist in a space that is effortless and transparent of need. The drive to excel for monetary gain is false for it will not fill the true need of wellness and satisfaction. Our energy desires for us to be connected to everything, it desires to be fulfilled and engaged, not ...
Views: 911(3 votes) - Loss Of Energy Due To Emotional Issues - by Submitted on Jul 04, 2011 from Adam BenedettoOur energy levels change constantly, and they can be a reminder of how we are doing internally. If we look at how we feel and how much energy we have, it often correlates because how we are feeling or thinking about something can consume and also regulate the flow of energy that is available to ...
Views: 909(2 votes) - How To Be Present When You Start Your Day - by Submitted on Sep 11, 2011 from Adam BenedettoWhen we wake up in the morning, where do our thoughts go? Do they run to the things we have to do? Are they filled with memories of yesterday and worries for tomorrow? How we think and feel when we wake up has a lot to do with how we will perceive the day. If we can relax our mind in those ...
Views: 906 - Living Without Stress - by Submitted on May 08, 2011 from Adam BenedettoStress is a learned behavior; it is holding onto something that bothers us, affects us, and imbalances us. We choose, in a way, to accept it and prolong it by holding onto it. Stress was once a factor in our lives when we related it to fear, a response brought on by stimuli and a need to ...
Views: 893 - Letting Go Of Patterns In A Relationship - by Submitted on Jun 19, 2011 from Adam BenedettoIt is easy to get locked into patterns with another person and to find yourself expecting things to always stay the same. Patterns evolve usually because we are not allowing change to take place. We behave in set ways to either make ourselves feel comfortable or to protect ourselves. Patterns ...
Views: 889(4 votes) - Learning To Cope With Insecurities - by Submitted on Feb 08, 2012 from Adam BenedettoIf you are insecure, know that you can change this by letting yourself see your self-worth. You do not need to continue on in this life as less, for that is what insecurity does to you. It takes away a part of you and throws it away. When we choose not to claim all of ourselves and see who we ...
Views: 886 - Releasing Old Habits - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2011 from Adam BenedettoWe all walk through life differently, seeking different options and looking in different directions, but there is one thing we are all the same at and that is how we believe in ourselves plays a huge role in our success as a person. In letting go of old habits we are releasing something that is ...
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