Self Improvement Site
On The Internet! Take the Self Improvement Tour
On The Internet! Take the Self Improvement Tour
Articles from Oliver JR Cooper | Selfgrowth.com
- Throwaway Society: What Created The Throwaway Society? - by Submitted on Nov 19, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen something is new or different it is often seen as better than what one has and as something that one can look forward to owning or experiencing. Once something has become ‘old’ and one is familiar with it, its effects usually lessen. So what was engaging and interesting at one point in ...
Views: 6035 - To All Those Working Through Their Inner Wounds, I Salute You! - by Submitted on Apr 28, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperA little while ago, I heard from someone who had had a childhood that was anything but nurturing. This was someone who I hadn’t seen for a number of years. Although I didn’t know much about them, I was still surprised when they told me this. What surprised me even more, though, was that ...
Views: 583 - Toxic Shame: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Feel Ashamed Of Things That Are Part Of Being Human? - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperToxic Shame: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Feel Ashamed Of Things That Are Part Of Being Human? 19/7/20200 Comments If someone was to incarnate as a bird, there would be certain things that would be part of their experience. The only way that they would change this is by denying ...
Views: 719 - Toxic Shame: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Experience Toxic Shame? - by Submitted on Feb 17, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile one has inherent worth, it doesn’t mean that they’re able to realise this. And when this is the case, it is likely to be due to the toxic shame that they’re carrying within them. As all the time one is carrying this within them, it is going to make it more or less impossible for them to ...
Views: 1408 - Toxic Shame: From One Generation To Another - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere are certain things that can be passed on from one generation to another that are beneficial and life affirming. This could relate manners, values and etiquette. These aspects will not only affect how one lives their life, the lives of others are also going to be affected. Through being ...
Views: 1667 - Toxic Shame: What Are The Different Levels Of Toxic Shame? - by Submitted on Aug 07, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to shame, it could be said that there is normal, or healthy, shame, and then there is abnormal, or unhealthy, shame. Another way of looking at this would be to say there is shame and there is toxic shame. What this means is that shame is not bad per se; it is simply part of the ...
Views: 608 - Toxic Shame: What Can Happen If Someone Disconnects From Their Toxic Shame? - by Submitted on Jun 28, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperThere are feelings that can be seen as being ‘positive’ and then there are feelings that can be seen as being ‘negative’. When it comes to how a feeling is perceived, it is likely to depend on the impact that it has on someone’s mood. If a feeling causes one to feel good, it can be seen in a ...
Views: 622 - Transference: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To See Other People As Their Parents? - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperFirst off, regardless of whether or not someone experienced a lot of trauma during their early years, they are going to engage in transference. It could be said that this is just something that human beings do. The difference is that if someone has experienced a lot of trauma, this is likely ...
Views: 500 - Trapped Emotions: What Happens When We Have Trapped Emotions? - by Submitted on Jul 18, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough emotions need to flow and to be expressed during moments when it is appropriate; they are often inhibited and denied the chance to be expressed. Now, there will always be times in ones life when it is not appropriate to express them and yet when one is in a different environment, it ...
Views: 1642 - Trauma Separates Us From Our True Essence! - by Submitted on May 09, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperI mediated a few weeks ago and this was something that I hadn’t done for a little while. But even though I hadn’t done this for a little while, I soon remembered how beneficial it was to mediate. I felt more at peace afterwards and it brought to my attention how different the mind is ...
Views: 931 - Trauma: Are Some People Trying To Heal Trauma By Changing Their Thoughts? - by Submitted on Jan 20, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone ends up getting into self-development, it can be a sign that their mind is their own worst enemy. So, instead of this part of them giving them the support and encouragement that they need, it will be doing the complete opposite. This part of them could have the tendency to produce ...
Views: 942 - Trauma: Can Childhood Trauma Stop Someone From Being Able To Stay In Their Body? - by Submitted on Oct 01, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is in their body and feels connected to it, they will experience life in a certain way. For one thing, they will be aware of what their feelings and needs are, and this will mean that they will be in touch with their true-self. Along with this, they will probably find that they ...
Views: 774 - Trauma: Can Mind-Based Trauma Approaches Do More Harm Than Good? - by Submitted on Feb 10, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has experienced trauma, either as an adult or as a child, they may end up suffering in silence. This is not to say that they will consciously choose to suffer as this is something that can just take place. What took place will have had a big effect on them and it will be a ...
Views: 662 - Trauma: Can Someone Project Their Past Onto Their Present If They Experienced Trauma As A Child? - by Submitted on Feb 12, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperThere are a number of reasons as to why someone would reach out for the support of a therapist or a counsellor. Still, if someone was to take this step, it could show that they are going through tough a time and can no longer handle what is going on. Perhaps they are experiencing a fair ...
Views: 838 - Trauma: Can Trauma Cause Someone To See Themselves As Just An Observer Of Reality? - by Submitted on Apr 30, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone wakes up in the morning, it can be as though they are simply observing what is going on around them. Once they have left their bedroom or wherever they were sleeping, their experience can be the same. Therefore, if something takes place that annoys them, it won’t have anything to ...
Views: 650 - Trauma: Can ‘Staying Present’ Be Another Way For Someone To Avoid Their Trauma? - by Submitted on Sep 30, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, it is not uncommon for someone to be told that they need to ‘stay in the moment’, ‘be present’ or to ‘live in the now’. Experiencing life in this way is often seen as the answer to most of life’s challenges. Now, there is no denying that life is going to be a lot harder for ...
Views: 735 - Trauma: How Can Someone Make It Easier For Them To Sleep If They Have PTSD? - by Submitted on Jan 31, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has PTSD, it is likely to be a sign that they have experienced something that has overwhelmed their system. Or if it doesn’t relate to one thing in particular, it could show that a number of things had this effect on them. Either way, due to how overwhelmed they were by what took ...
Views: 886 - Trauma: Is It Important For Someone To Spend Time In Nature If They Have Experienced Trauma? - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIn the same way that a rupture can severely weaken a tyre, trauma can also severely weaken a human being. But even though a broken type can be replaced by a brand new one, a human being won’t be able to find a another suit to replace the one that is not in a good way. As a result of this, ...
Views: 968 - Trauma: Is There A Difference Between Adult Trauma And Developmental Trauma? - by Submitted on Jul 10, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf the average person was asked to think about both an adult and a child experiencing something that is deeply distressing and was then asked to decide which one would be harmed the most, they are likely to say the latter. They could say that as the child is not as developed it is bound to have ...
Views: 379 - Travelling Is Great For Developing The Masculine Aspect! - by Submitted on Apr 18, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperDuring my time in Sweden, Stockholm, I was reminded of how good it was to travel. Before I went away, the last time I went aboard was a number of years ago, and this meant that I had pretty much forget about what it was like to go away. When I was away, it was clear that I was the one who ...
Views: 900 - Travelling Is Great For Self-Development! - by Submitted on Apr 07, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperAfter I went to Stockholm, Sweden, I was reminded of how good it was to travel, and the experience was very similar to how I felt when I have travelled in the past. When I went away last time, I came back feeling alive. In addition to this, I saw myself differently and a lot of my thoughts ...
Views: 1008 - Triggered: Does Someone Have The Right To Silence Others If They Are Easily Triggered? - by Submitted on Nov 06, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperThere can be moments when someone is more irritable than others, and this can make it hard to be around them. This could mean that other people are likely to get into an argument with them, or they could simply end up being verbally attacked. Having said that, it might not even be this ...
Views: 1091 - TRON: Legacy: My Interpretation Of The Metaphors - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I heard that the film was all about taking down the master control system I was instantly intrigued. Although I hadn't seen the first film I went with friends to see what it was all about. And with it being in Disney Digital 3D, I had a feeling it was going to be good. And after watching ...
Views: 2251 - True Self: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Lose Touch With Their True Self? - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperOn one side, there is information outside of someone, and, on the other, there is information inside them. However, if they don’t have a strong connection with their body, they are going to have limited access to the information inside them. In general, then, a number of their needs and ...
Views: 307 - True Self: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone’s True Self To Be Imprisoned By Their False Self? - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperFrom the outside, someone can appear to be free to express who they are. However, although this may appear to be the case, it doesn’t mean that this is something that they can actually relate to. And, to make matters worse, there is the chance that they are not fully aware of the fact that ...
Views: 292 - True Self: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone’s True Self To Withdraw? - by Submitted on Aug 30, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can be normal is for someone to feel as though they are simply going through the motions in life. They are then not going to have a strong desire to be here and this can be evident when it comes to how they live their life. When it comes to what they do each week, this could typically ...
Views: 325 - True Self: Can Child Abuse Give Someone The Need To Hide Themselves? - by Submitted on May 11, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone’s physical self will be seen by others, it doesn’t mean that their inner self will typically be seen by others. In general, this part of them could be hidden and this will mean that what is truly going on for them will be a mystery to others. Along with this, what is taking ...
Views: 306 - True Self: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Associate Self Expression With Being Isolated? - by Submitted on Apr 16, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone will be an individual that has their own needs, feelings, thoughts and preferences, it doesn’t mean that they will typically act like one. In general, they could act as though they are nothing more than an extension of others. Consequently, it will be normal for them to hide ...
Views: 297 - True Self: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Disconnect From Their True Self? - by Submitted on Apr 14, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, if they were able to step back and reflect on how they experience life is that they are rarely connected to how they feel or their needs. When this takes place, it could be as though part of themselves has disappeared. Therefore, they are not going to be able to operate ...
Views: 361 - True Self: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone’s True Self To Go Into Hiding? - by Submitted on Mar 04, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is connected to their true self, they will be aware of their needs and feelings. This will mean that they will be in touch with their body as this will be where most of their needs and feelings will be found. By having this connection, they will be able to live a life that is in ...
Views: 265 - True Self: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone’s True Self To Withdraw? - by Submitted on Apr 16, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone doesn’t have a strong connection with their true self, it is going to mean that they are rarely going to be aware of how they feel and a number of their needs will typically be a mystery. In general, then, they are going to live in their head and be out of touch with their ...
Views: 268 - True Self: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Hide Their True Self? - by Submitted on Jan 03, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to take a step back and reflect on how they behave, what might soon enter their mind is that they have the inclination to play a role when they are around others. So, this could mean that they typically come across as easy-going and do what they can to please others. As a ...
Views: 94 - True Self: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone’s True Self To Be Murdered? - by Submitted on Aug 15, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to how someone behaves, it might generally be a reflection of their true self. Then again, it might generally be a reflection of their false self. If it is generally a reflection of their true self, it will mean that they will have a strong connection with their body. By having ...
Views: 215 - True Self: Can Someone Abandon Themselves If They Had A Narcissistic Parent? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, if they were to step back and reflect on how they behave, is that they have the tendency to ignore their feelings and a number of their needs. Due to this, they are typically going to act as though they are an extension of others as opposed to a separate human ...
Views: 221 - True Self: Can Someone Associate Self-Expression With Being Isolated If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Dec 14, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone is an individual, it doesn’t mean that they will act like one. In general, they could act as though they are nothing more than an extension of others. As a result of this, it will be normal for them to please others and to ignore their own needs. But, if this is just what ...
Views: 238 - True Self: Can Someone Be Out Of Touch With Their Need To Express Themselves If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Nov 11, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperBased on how someone typically behaves, it can be as though they are wearing a straight jacket and don’t have a voice. The reason for this is that it can be normal for them to go along with what others want and not to speak up when they need to. They are then going to be an individual, who ...
Views: 236 - True Self: Can Someone Believe That They Have To Hide Their True Self In Order To Be Loved? - by Submitted on Jun 03, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to go for a drive, they would be able to go wherever they wanted. So, if they wanted to go left, they could go left, and, if they wanted to go right, they could go right. Quite simply, they would have the ability to go wherever suited them and to adapt if it wasn’t possible for ...
Views: 435 - True Self: Can Someone Believe That They Need To Hide Their True Self In Order To Survive? - by Submitted on Apr 30, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, that’s if they were to take a step back and reflect on their life, is that they find it hard to express themselves. As a result of this, it is going to be normal for them to behave in ways that are not in alignment with their true essence. In general, then, how they act ...
Views: 312 - True Self: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Believe That Only Parts Of Them Are Acceptable? - by Submitted on May 10, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone will be a multi-faceted being who has many different aspects, they could typically come across as though this is not the case. They are then going to be like a TV that has many different channels but only one channel is ever selected. What this can mean is that they will ...
Views: 322 - True Self: Is Life About Finding Ourselves Or Creating Ourselves? - by Submitted on Jan 04, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough life is rarely black and white, this doesn’t mean that one’s mind is able to realise this. Instead, one can end up seeing their whole life in this way and not only is this limiting, it also doesn’t reflect reality. While it could be said that some people think like this and some ...
Views: 1475 - True Self: Is Pain Part Of Realising The True Self? - by Submitted on Jul 22, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen the true self is mentioned, pain if often not too far behind. There are also many other terms that are mentioned in regards to finding the true self and two of these are: the dark night of the soul and an existential crises. Here ones goes through an experience or a number experiences ...
Views: 1575 - True Self: Is The Fear Of Abandonment Causing You To Hide Your True Self? - by Submitted on Jan 13, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperHow someone comes across is not always in alignment with who they are and while this could be something that happens from time to time, it could be a regular occurrence. This then means that their true self is being covered up from time to time or it is something that always takes place. If ...
Views: 1634 - True Self: Why Do Some People Hide Their True Self? - by Submitted on May 17, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperOver the years, the true self has been used to describe ones true nature and who they really are. On the other hand, the false self represents all that is not true and is made up of illusions. And while deep down one may want to embrace their true self; it is often far from easy and the world ...
Views: 6702 - True Self: Why Do Some People Only Feel Safe When They Are Hiding Their True Self? - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperMany words and phrases have been used to describe the true self, and while these differences do exist, they are simply labels. Underneath these labels is the same thing, and this relates to someone’s true needs and wants. The true self has been portrayed as something that is fixed, and based ...
Views: 1798 - True Self: Why Do Some People Only Feel Supported When They Are Hiding Their True Self? - by Submitted on Apr 28, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to living ones truth, feeling supported is incredibly important. For if one doesn’t feel supported when comes to their own needs and wants, there is the chance that they will deny them. This could take place at certain times, or it could be something that has become a way of ...
Views: 1427 - True Self: Why Is It Hard To Reveal Our True Self? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperRevealing who one is to others is not always easy and I believe that this can be due to two reasons. Firstly this can come about through not knowing who one is and secondly through the feeling that it is not safe for one to reveal who one is. Both of these reasons can be the result of ones ...
Views: 2078 - True-Self: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Be Preoccupied With Feeling Safe? - by Submitted on Aug 29, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often believed that self-esteem is the defining factor when it comes to how someone experiences life. So, if someone has a good amount of it there life will be fulfilling; whereas if they don’t their life won’t be. On one side will be someone who is living a life that is deeply ...
Views: 1195 - True-Self: Are You Being Guided By Your Ego Or Your True-Self? - by Submitted on Sep 30, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperTaking action is one thing, but it is another thing altogether as to whether or not the action someone takes is coming from their true essence or their need for approval. One of the best ways for someone to find out is to take the time to reflect on why they are doing something. What this ...
Views: 942 - True-Self: Can Being Agreeable Cause Someone To Lose Touch With Their True-Self? - by Submitted on Dec 14, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone has the ability to go along to get along, it can be a lot easier for them to get on with others. By not having the desire to rock the boat, so to speak, they are unlikely to rub other people up the wrong way. This is likely to mean that they will have a number of friends, and ...
Views: 893 - True-Self: Can Being Physically Attractive Stop Someone From Finding Their True-Self? - by Submitted on Oct 15, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, it could be said that one’s appearance is more important than it is has ever been, and this is a party the result of social media. One can feel the need to maintain a certain look not only in public, but also online. In the past, one may have gone under the knife in order ...
Views: 1244