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- Vulnerability: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Fear Being Vulnerable? - by Submitted on Jun 24, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that human beings are inherently vulnerable, but this doesn’t mean that a being from another planet would be able to see this if they came down to earth. This being may come to conclude that although there are some people that are, there are others that aren’t. This could be ...
Views: 633 - Vulnerability: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Have A Fear Of Being Vulnerable? - by Submitted on Sep 03, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that in order for someone to grow and to develop, they will need to feel comfortable with being vulnerable. The reason for this is that if someone has the need to protect themselves, they are not going to open themselves up to life. Their main priority will be to do ...
Views: 914 - Vulnerability: Why Do Some People Find It Hard To Be Vulnerable? - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperTo be human is to be vulnerable, but that doesn’t mean that accepting this is therefore easy. To surrender to this truth can be an incredible challenge; that is if one even wants to. And as a way to avoid this truth, one can create all kinds of walls and defences. But while this may allow one ...
Views: 1683 - We All Have Hidden Talents! - by Submitted on Jun 19, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperEarlier on I caught up with my friend, Wain Gordon, and we touched upon a number of topics. One thing that I spoke about was a how-to guide that I had put together to assist others in finding their purpose. He asked me a few questions about this and then he said that one of the ways that ...
Views: 808 - We All Judge Others - by Submitted on Aug 11, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperThere is a strong chance that someone will have heard, at least once, that they shouldn’t judge others. If they are into self-development/spirituality, they may have heard this more times than they can remember. One way to look at this would be to say that this is sage advice. For one thing, ...
Views: 699 - We Are All On Our Own Path! - by Submitted on Jun 21, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperI was talking to someone the other day who was finding it hard to get through to another person in their life. They could see that this person was unable to make progress in an area of their life and this caused them to offer their advice. But while it was their intention to assist them, ...
Views: 976 - We Are Made Up Of Different Parts - by Submitted on Dec 12, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to look in the mirror, it would be clear that there is only one of them, and this is something that every other person on the planet would say. The only time that this wouldn’t take place is if they have at least one identical twin. However, although they will only have one ...
Views: 540 - Weight Loss: Do Some People Fear Losing Weight? - by Submitted on May 23, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe Weight loss industry is one of the biggest in the world and takes in billions every year. This affects both men and women and while sometimes it can be for health reasons, at other times it is for aesthetic reasons. People can lose weight through: eating differently, exercising, taking ...
Views: 1906 - Weight Loss: Why Do Some People Become Attention Seekers When They Lose Weight? - by Submitted on Dec 14, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, there are all kinds of things that someone can do when they are carrying a few too many pounds. When it comes to what one will do to lose weight, it can all depend on their personality. Active If one has a lot of energy, they might decide to engage in some kind of ...
Views: 1407 - Weight: Is It Good Or Bad To Comment On Someone's Weight? - by Submitted on Jun 11, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIn the past, it was generally women who were concerned about their weight, and this is partly because of how much pressure they had to face. Men on the other hand, were not under the same amount of pressure. However, this has all changed, and while it could be said that the amount of ...
Views: 1352 - What Are You Focusing On? Where Is Your Energy Going? What Are You Creating? - by Submitted on Aug 23, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperFrom the moment that someone wakes up until the moment they fall asleep, their attention will be on all kinds of things. And, it could be said that even when they are asleep, their attention can still be on different things thanks to the dreams that they may have. When they are awake, they ...
Views: 363 - What Can Someone Do To Be Highly Stressed? - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIt might seem as strange as to why I used the title above as it is not as though anyone would consciously look for a way to become highly stressed. Even so, this doesn’t mean this won’t take place unconsciously. Without realising it, someone can do just about everything that they can to ...
Views: 859 - What Can Someone Do To Understand Their Emotions? - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough having emotions is a normal part of the human experience, it doesn’t mean that someone is born with the ability to understand them. In the same way that someone will need to be taught how to speak, they will also need to be taught how to understand their own emotions. Therefore, ...
Views: 556 - What Challenges Can Someone Encounter On Their Healing Journey? - by Submitted on Mar 26, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I look back on my life, I can see that my healing journey began in 2003 when I met my first mentor. This was a woman who I would go on to study with for a number of years. During our time together, I would go on study Reiki healing and NLP. It wasn’t just the qualifications that I picked ...
Views: 818 - What Did The Film 'Due Date' Get Wrong About Karma? - by Submitted on Feb 25, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperThe other night I was at a friend’s house and, while we were looking for something to watch, the film ‘Due Date’ caught my eye. I thought that it looked similar to the ‘Hangover’ films, so I thought that it would be a good idea to watch it. Over all, I would say that it was an entertaining ...
Views: 1088 - What Did Your Parents Teach You About Men And Women? - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperI remember reading ‘Family Secrets’ by John Bradshaw and in this book he said, “it was and is your parents’ actually lives that educated you: not what they said, but what they did”. I took this to mean that what my parents did was far more important than what came out of their mouth. This ...
Views: 790 - What Is Inner Baby Work? - by Submitted on Jun 11, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperFor a number of years now, I have been doing inner child work, and the term ‘inner child’ may have been something I first heard when I read one of John Bradshaw’s books. I think that his books are terrific. Anyway, when I first started doing this work I would get in touch with the parts of ...
Views: 848 - What is Repetition Compulsion? - by Submitted on Sep 10, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperAt the beginning of the year I spoke about a time in my life when I was speaking to Vijay Rana, an integral therapist, about projection. This article was titled,’ “There Is A Reason Why We Project Our Issues Onto Others!” In this article I said that we also spoke about repetition compulsion ...
Views: 795 - What Makes A Good Healer/Therapist? - by Submitted on Jun 11, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperI was recently thinking about what factors play a part when it comes to what makes someone a good healer/therapist. During this time, I thought about the kind of people who I had worked with over the years. Over the years, I have worked with numerous healers and therapists, and I would say ...
Views: 1308 - When The Past Is Present - by Submitted on Sep 25, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIn the book, ‘When The past is Present’, David Richo goes into how our past can still influence what is taking place in our present This was a book I read in 2012, so I can’t remember any specific details about it. However, I had an experience recently that clearly demonstrated how what took ...
Views: 918 - When The Student Is Ready, The Teacher Will Appear - by Submitted on Nov 24, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is going through a tough time or is unable to handle a certain obstacle, they can have the need to find a way through what is taking place. Regardless of what it is, their life might not have been this way for very long or it may have been this way for quite some time. Either way, ...
Views: 627 - Why Are Siblings So Different? - by Submitted on Dec 28, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIt is not uncommon for people to talk about how different they are to their siblings and this can be seen as a surprise, especially if they have the same parents. Due to this difference, it can be as if they had different parents growing up. One Element One reason that is often put ...
Views: 821 - Why Do Some People Hoard Things? - by Submitted on May 26, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhole TV series have been made about people who are unable to let go of anything, with some of these people finding it hard to get out of their own house. In this case, they will have an incredible amount of stuff in their house. And the fact that TV programs have been created around ...
Views: 874 - Why Do Some People Only Care About Their Health When They’re Nearly Dead? - by Submitted on May 15, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhat I have thought about recently is why some people only pay attention to their health when they are in a really bad way. It’s a bit like only taking a car for a service when the engine is close to exploding. When something like this takes place, it is going to be clear that they have been ...
Views: 1040 - Why Do We Behave In Ways That Harm Us? - by Submitted on Jul 04, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhat you may find is that you often behave in ways that don’t benefit you and even harm you. Further, you may find that you there are people in your life who behave in the same way, holding themselves back in the process. After you have behaved in a way that doesn’t benefit you, you may ...
Views: 640 - Why Do You Want To Achieve Something? - by Submitted on Jan 03, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperNow that a New Year has just begun, there is a lot being said about goals and making this a year that is unlike any other. This is something that you may have heard online and/or something that the people in your life have spoken about. When I hear anything like this, it makes me think about ...
Views: 897 - Why Is Fear A Powerful Manifestor? - by Submitted on Jun 05, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for someone to experience/attain something, it won’t just be a case of them having the right thoughts; they will also need to have the right feelings and to behave in a certain way. What this comes down to is that their thoughts are just one part of the equation. This might be hard ...
Views: 586 - Will: Can Someone Have A Weak Will If They Experienced Developmental Trauma? - by Submitted on Mar 05, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for someone to have a fulfilling life, they will need to be able to assert themselves and to go after what it is that they desire. The reason for this is that if they are unable to do this, they won’t be able to live a life that is in alignment with who they are and what they desire ...
Views: 267 - Willpower: Can A Man Have A Weak Will If He Had Controlling Parents? - by Submitted on Jul 18, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a man may find, if he were to take a step back and reflect, is that he finds it hard to stick to things. So, he can come up with a goal and start taking action and then, before long, he can put it to one side. He might see that this often takes place after he has experienced a setback. ...
Views: 186 - Willpower: Can Someone Have A Weak Will If They Had Controlling Parents? - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that when there is a will, there is a way. What this illustrates is how important willpower is when it comes to achieving something. This is then an inner source of power that will allow someone to get from where they are, to where they want to be. Along with this, it is this ...
Views: 165 - Willpower: Can Someone Rely On Willpower If They Have Experienced Childhood Trauma? - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperOn one side, there is willpower and, on the other, there is emotional power. The former can be seen as something that comes from the mind, while the latter can be seen as something that comes from the body. At times, someone won’t feel like doing something that they know is good for them, so ...
Views: 305 - Willpower: Can Someone Use Willpower To Get What They Want? - by Submitted on Jan 27, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone has gone through a difficult time in their life, it is often said that it was their will to survive that pushed them through. Part of them was not willing to give in, and this is what allowed them to keep going. Therefore, it could be said that this is a force that is not only ...
Views: 1228 - Withdrawal: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Withdraw Under Stress? - by Submitted on Jan 26, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone experiences stress, they could soon feel the need to get away from everyone and everything. As a result of this, they end up pulling themselves away from life. This could mean that they will spend a lot of time at home and only go out when they need to. They might rarely answer ...
Views: 331 - Withdrawal: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Withdraw Under Stress? - by Submitted on Jul 22, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, if they were to step back and reflect on their life, is that they behave in a way that doesn’t serve them when they experience a lot of stress. So, they can see that they have the tendency to withdraw physically. Along with this, they can lose touch with their emotional ...
Views: 166 - Word Association Can Allow You To Access Your Unconscious Mind - by Submitted on Jul 22, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperOver the years, it has been well documented that human beings have both a conscious and an unconscious mind. One way to get an idea of the difference would be to see the former as the tip of the iceberg and the latter as the part of the iceberg that can’t be seen. Another way of looking at ...
Views: 703 - Words: Do Words Create Our Experience Of Life? - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe power that words have cannot be denied or dismissed. And there are many points and areas to look at when it comes to words. However, the primary focus of this article is going to be the role that the ego mind plays. Words have certain meanings in the dictionary and socially for example; ...
Views: 1694 - Workaholic: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Be A Workaholic? - by Submitted on Mar 14, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIn general, someone could spend a lot of time working, having very little time for anything else. It doesn’t mean that this is something that will cross their mind, though, as it could just be what is normal. And, if they ever do think about how much time they spend working, they could end up ...
Views: 279 - Workaholic: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Become A Workaholic? - by Submitted on Dec 26, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough some people work to live, there are others that live to work. Naturally, these people are going to have a radically different experience on planet earth. When it comes to the former, someone’s life won’t revolve around their work and they will typically only work at certain times. ...
Views: 306 - Working Through Emotional Pain Is A Lot Like Weeding A Garden - by Submitted on Aug 07, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperEarlier on, it occurred to me that when it comes to working through emotional wounds, it is very similar to weeding a garden. At this point, you might wonder how the former has got anything to do with the latter. Perhaps the reason why I was able to see this connection is that I have removed ...
Views: 265 - Worry Is A Misuse Of Imagination - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperTowards the end of last year, I looked through a booked called ‘The Art Of Peace’ by Philip Dunn. This book was full of great advice, and there were two things that I ended up noting down. The first thing I made a note of was what he said in regards to the education system. He said that, ‘we ...
Views: 840 - Yellowstone: Does Jimmy Go Through An Initiation On Yellowstone? - by Submitted on Mar 13, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIn the previous articles that I have written about Yellowstone, I haven’t mentioned Jimmy. However, in the beginning, Jimmy works on the ranch and lives in the bunkhouse, but, as time passes, he ends up going to the 6666 ranch to learn how to be a cowboy. Now, moving from one ranch to another ...
Views: 246 - You Are Depressed Because Your Life Lacks Meaning! - by Submitted on Jul 08, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperOver the years I have heard a number of people say that the only reason someone would be depressed is because their life lacks meaning. I even heard a yoga teacher come out with the same view. But before I go into what my thoughts are on this, I will go along with what these people ...
Views: 790 - You Are That Which You Seek - by Submitted on Mar 13, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I first got on ‘the path’ in 2003, I was out of touch with what I would class as my true essence. I felt disconnected, powerless and I didn’t know why my life was the way that it was. The pain that I was in made me look for answers; I needed to find a way to change my life. I didn’t know ...
Views: 805 - You Are The Light At The End Of The Tunnel! - by Submitted on Aug 18, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperA number of months ago I was talking to my friend Wain about how important it is keep gong and not to give up. After this I think I said that if we do this, the light at the end of the tunnel will appear. He went on to share something that one of his friends had said to him around his ...
Views: 733 - You Are Worthy - by Submitted on May 29, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is in a position where they don’t feel worthy of having what they need and want, it might no matter what they do. They can then have the tendency to work really hard but it won’t change how they feel. This can mean that they will rarely have what they need and want and will often ...
Views: 384 - You Can Make The Impossible Possible - by Submitted on Apr 18, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf you were to think about what is impossible for you to achieve or attain, certain things could come to mind. Therefore, it will seem as though this is something that is fixed and there is nothing that you can do about it. However, while this may be so, it doesn’t mean that what you believe ...
Views: 789 - You Can’t Save Your Parents! - by Submitted on Jun 28, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I first got into self-development, I shared a lot of what I had learnt with my parents. This was partly because I wanted to share what I had learnt and partly because I thought it could help them. I soon came to see that I was wasting my time, and that it was far better for me to keep ...
Views: 1117 - You Don't Come Through The World, The World Comes Through You - by Submitted on Aug 23, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I was speaking to Ben Ralston a number of weeks ago, he mentioned something that really made me think. Ben is a therapist and trainer of therapists, healer, advanced Sivananda Yoga teacher, and writer. We were talking about the self-image and he ended up touching upon a book that he had ...
Views: 775 - You Have Daddy Issues! - by Submitted on Jul 07, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperI was thinking the other day about how, over the years, I had heard a number of people say that certain women had “daddy issues”. This was something that was said if a woman blamed all men for everything and hated men, or even if she had the tendency to go for older men. However, although ...
Views: 1092 - You Just Need To Embrace Your True-Self! - by Submitted on Mar 07, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperFollowing on from the other articles that I wrote on this theme, I wanted to cover another subject that is often spoken about. So, just as someone can be told that ‘they just need to love themselves’, for instance, they can also be told that they just need to embrace their true-self. When ...
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