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- Change: Do Some People Try To Change The World In Order To Avoid Themselves? - by Submitted on Nov 11, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere are the changes that one can make in their own life and then there are the changes they can make in the world. And as one is part of the world, what takes place in their life can end up affecting the world. The internet has given individuals the power to make more of a difference than ...
Views: 1841 - Chest Pain: Can Chest Pain Be Caused By Trapped Grief? - by Submitted on Mar 14, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to find that there is pain and tension in their chest, the first thing that could come to mind is that there is something wrong with their heart. It could also be a challenge for them to breath, which could mean that they will believe that there is something wrong with their lungs ...
Views: 1262 - Child Abuse: Are Some Parents Too Emotionally Immature To Show Remorse? - by Submitted on Oct 07, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has come to see that they were mistreated during their early years, they could have the need to talk to their parents about what took place. There could be a number of things that they want from them. For one thing, they might want to know why their parents treated them in the way ...
Views: 391 - Child Abuse: Can A Parent Be Too Disordered To Acknowledge That They Were Abusive? - by Submitted on Apr 06, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to see that they were mistreated during their early years, they could have the need to talk to their parent/s about what took place. However, although this will be the case, it doesn’t mean that they will be able to receive what they are looking for. When it comes to what they ...
Views: 162 - Child Abuse: Can A Parent Be Too Out Of Touch With Reality To Acknowledge That They Were Abusive? - by Submitted on Sep 13, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone may have been abused by one or both of their parents during their formative years, it doesn’t mean that they have spoken to them about it. For so long, they might not have felt comfortable talking to them about what happened. If they were to imagine how they would like it ...
Views: 82 - Child Abuse: Can A Parents Fear Of Being Abandoned Cause Them To Make Their Children Dependent? - by Submitted on Dec 30, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that it is down to parents to give their children what they need so that they can handle the world. At times, this is something that takes place, and at other times, this is something that doesn’t take place. As a result of this, one can look like an adult from the outside ...
Views: 1258 - Child Abuse: Can An Abusive Parent Carry Too Much Pain To Be Able To Acknowledge That They Were Abusive? - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAfter someone has come to see that their early years were anything but nurturing, they can soon have the need to talk to one or both of their parents about what took place. They can hope that this will end up being a time when their experiences will be validated and remorse will be ...
Views: 70 - Child Abuse: Can Child Abuse Affect Someone’s Life Even If They Can’t Remember What Happened? - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperEven if someone was abused as a child, it doesn’t mean that they will realise this now that they are an adult. What happened during their early years could be a mystery to them or they could make out that their childhood wasn’t that bad. Still, while they won’t remember much of what actually ...
Views: 625 - Child Abuse: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone See Themselves As An Extension Of Others? - by Submitted on Aug 17, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for someone to act like an individual as an adult, who has their own needs and feelings, they will have needed to have had a childhood that was at least somewhat nurturing. The reason for this is that they wouldn’t have felt like an individual when they were born; this was a sense that ...
Views: 100 - Child Abuse: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Be Scared Of Life? - by Submitted on Mar 17, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone may live in an area that is relatively safe, it doesn’t mean that they will typically feel safe. Based on how they often feel, it could be as if they live in a warzone. So, from practically the moment they wake up until the moment they fall asleep, they could seldom feel at ...
Views: 7 - Child Abuse: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Become A Human Doing? - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was abused and/or neglected as a child, it can be hard for them to just be. No matter what part of the day it is or what day of the week it is, they can more or less always be on the go. Simply doing nothing and relaxing can be something that rarely, if ever, takes place. In a way, ...
Views: 552 - Child Abuse: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Believe That They Are Bad? - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone can believe that they are bad, it doesn’t mean that they will be consciously aware of this. The trouble is that even if they are not aware of this, it is still likely to have a massive effect on their life. This belief is going to be running at a deeper level and it won’t be ...
Views: 293 - Child Abuse: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Disconnect From Their Aggression? - by Submitted on Oct 03, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that everyone on this planet has a part of them that provides them with aggression. This part of someone will provide them with energy, drive, enthusiasm and the ability to stand their ground. Of course, it can also be something that can cause them to cause destruction, not ...
Views: 597 - Child Abuse: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Dissociate As An Adult? - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIn recent years, a lot has been said about the importance of being present and living in the moment. Numerous books have been written about it and there have even been programs on TV that go into this. This surely shows that this is something that is a challenge for a lot of people; if this ...
Views: 642 - Child Abuse: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Feel Deeply Vulnerable? - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can be normal is for someone to spend a lot of time by themselves, away from others. When they are by themselves, they could typically feel comfortable and at ease. This can also be a time when they will be connected to what is taking place inside them, too. When they are around others, ...
Views: 71 - Child Abuse: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Feel Worthless? - by Submitted on Oct 26, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can make it more or less impossible for someone to feel comfortable in their own skin and to be grateful for the life that they have been given is if they feel worthless. Through feeling this way, their life can be unbearable and being alive can feel like a curse, not a blessing. To say ...
Views: 630 - Child Abuse: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Have A Fear of Being Seen? - by Submitted on Nov 24, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhile it can seem as though being seen is a normal part of being human, it doesn’t mean that this is actually the case. So, just because someone’s being can be seen by others, it doesn’t mean that they will feel comfortable with being seen for who they are. There is then going to be a big ...
Views: 555 - Child Abuse: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Have A Fear Of Life? - by Submitted on Jul 20, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone will have been given the gift of life, it doesn’t mean that they will see their life as a gift. Thanks to how they generally experience life, it could be seen as a curse and as something that they have to endure. What this can show is that they have the tendency to experience ...
Views: 79 - Child Abuse: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Hide Themselves? - by Submitted on Feb 11, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperAs a result of being abused and/or neglected as a child, someone may find it hard to fully show up in life. What could be normal is for them to hide when they are around others or to hide away from others. Still, regardless of what takes place, the outcome will be the same. If they do hide ...
Views: 586 - Child Abuse: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Live In Fight Mode As An Adult? - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone could live in an area that is relatively safe, they could behave as though their life is constantly under threat. What this means is that they could have the tendency to be aggressive. As a result of this, they could routinely get into heated arguments and even fights. So no ...
Views: 588 - Child Abuse: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Live In Flight Mode As An Adult? - by Submitted on Mar 12, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone is a human being, based on how they typically behave, they could be described as a human doing. The reason for this is that they could practically always be on the go. And, if they were to sit still for a short moment, they could soon end up feeling deeply irritated and end ...
Views: 12 - Child Abuse: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Live In Their Head? - by Submitted on Oct 20, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone doesn’t have a strong connection with their body, they are not going to be in touch with a big part of them. It is this part of them that a number of their needs and feelings will be found. Taking this into account, not having a strong connection with this part of them is going to ...
Views: 53 - Child Abuse: Can Child Abuse Set Someone Up To Believe That It Is Not Safe Enough For Them To Exist? - by Submitted on Nov 25, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone will have a body and live on planet earth, it doesn’t mean that they will feel comfortable being in their body and living on the earth. This can be due to what took place when they younger. If this is so, thanks to what they went through as a child, they won’t be able to ...
Views: 546 - Child Abuse: Can Child Abuse Stop Someone From Developing Self-Awareness? - by Submitted on Oct 26, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone had a traumatic childhood, they may be in a very bad way now that they are an adult. Their early years would then have been incredibly difficult and now that they are an adult their life won’t be much better. What this could mean is that this was a time in their life when they ...
Views: 631 - Child Abuse: Can Child Abuse Take Away Someone’s Will To Live? - by Submitted on Jan 15, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperAs a result of being abused and/or neglected as a child, someone might not have much motivation in life. This is, of course, will be in addition to all of the other challenges that they may have. So instead of having the need to embrace life and to make the most of the life that they have ...
Views: 529 - Child Abuse: Can It Be Hard For Someone To Accept That They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was abused during their development years, it could take many, many years before they actually realise this. This could seem strange; especially as these early experiences will have had an effect on them. How much of an impact this stage will have had on them is likely to depend on ...
Views: 104 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Be Out Of Touch With Their Need For Love If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Feb 18, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperThere are those that are in tune with their need to be loved and those that are not. When someone is not in tune with this need, they might have been this way for most if not all of their life. As a result of this, they won’t be in tune with this need and this will be something that they are ...
Views: 26 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Believe That They Always Need To Be On Guard If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Jan 25, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperAs a result of being abused and/or neglected as a child, someone may find it hard to let go and to relax now that they are an adult. Thanks to this, they can have the need to always be in control and on the go. Now, there could be moments when one thinks about how their early years are still ...
Views: 810 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Believe That They Deserve To Suffer If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Oct 26, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was abused as a child, what took place will be over but it doesn’t mean that they will have put what took place firmly behind them. So, in the same way that a soldier who has left a warzone can carry the effects of what they experienced, one can also be in the same ...
Views: 427 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Believe That They Don’t Deserve To Receive Anything If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to step back and to take a closer look at their own life, they may see that their life is out of balance. The reason for this is that they might give a lot but they might rarely receive anything back. Through living in this way, they will almost certainly be used to running on ...
Views: 434 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Carry A Lot Of Hurt If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Sep 29, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone can be carrying a lot of pain, it doesn’t mean that they will realise this. The reason for this is that their brain can generally keep this pain out of their conscious awareness. Along with this, there can be a number of things that they will do, secondary defences, to keep ...
Views: 52 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Embody Their Parents Sense Of Being Unlovable If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Feb 18, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone doesn’t believe that they are lovable, it doesn’t mean that they will realise this. Even so, how they see themselves is still going to have an effect on how they experience life. By being this way, it can be normal for them to push human warmth away. But, if they are not aware of ...
Views: 34 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Embody Their Parents Shadow If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperNow that someone is an adult, what they may find is that it is hard for them to feel good about themselves. They could have the tendency to feel worthless and as though they have no value. As a result of this, they are likely to often feel low and depressed and they may even think about ...
Views: 164 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Embody Their Parents Toxic shame If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, if they were able to detach from how they experience life, is that they have the tendency to feel low. This can mean that they will often feel depressed and they may even have moments when they think about ending their life. They may find that this is how they have been ...
Views: 97 - Child Abuse: Can Someone End Up Being Emotionally Disconnected If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to take a step back and to reflect on how they experience life, what they may find is that they are typically out of touch with how they feel. During the moments when this isn’t the case, that’s if they have these moments, it could be because something dramatic has taken ...
Views: 524 - Child Abuse: Can Someone End Up Feeling Guilty After They Have Spoken To Their Abusive Parents? - by Submitted on Oct 26, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was mistreated during their early years by one or both of their parents, it could be said that the ideal would be for what they went through to be acknowledged by them. What this would do is allow them to receive the validation that they deserve and play a part in them being able to ...
Views: 64 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Feel As Though Death Is Imminent If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Mar 23, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can’t be denied is that everyone on this planet is going to die at one point or another. Thus, to say this is not being ‘negative’, it is simply stating something that is part of the human experience. This doesn’t mean that someone should endlessly think about the fact that they will ...
Views: 521 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Feel As Though They Are Betraying Their Parents If They Talk About Their Abuse? - by Submitted on May 04, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf, after coming to see that they were abused and/or neglected during their early years, someone might feel the need to talk about what they went through. At this stage, they might not feel comfortable speaking to one or both of their parents about it. Still, although they can have this ...
Views: 252 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Feel More At Peace When They No Longer Need Anything From The People Who Abused Them? - by Submitted on Aug 14, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was abused at the beginning of their life, it is likely to mean that they experienced a lot of pain during this time. In addition to this, most, if not all, of their development needs might not have been met. As a result of this, even though a number of years will have passed ...
Views: 2043 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Hate Themselves If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperAs a result of being abused and/or neglected as a child, one may find that it is a challenge for them to feel good about themselves. Their time on this planet is then going to be anything but fulfilling. In fact, it could seem as though they are in hell as opposed to hell being somewhere ...
Views: 549 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Have The Need To Always Be On The Go If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Oct 07, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can be normal is for someone to spend most of their waking hours on the go. So, from morning until night, they are seldom going to just be, and, even if they were to sit down, they might not be able to simply relax. To settle themselves down, they might need to have something to drink or ...
Views: 64 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Have The Need To Be Perfect If They Had A Highly Critical Parent? - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was brought up in an environment that was extremely conditional and there was very little love on offer, it doesn’t mean that this is something that they will be aware of now that they are an adult. In fact, if they were to think about this stage of their life, they might not be able ...
Views: 64 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Have Trouble Moving Forward If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to the human body, it could be said that it is designed to take someone forward. Of course, they can walk back but it is not as easy as it is for them to walk forward. Now, although going forward, not backwards is what is supposed to take place, it doesn’t mean that someone will ...
Views: 601 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Isolate Themselves If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Jul 29, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone could live in a country and an area that is relatively safe, based on how they live, it will be as though this is not the case. This is because they could have the inclination to isolate themselves from others. If so, they could only go out when they need to do so, such as ...
Views: 110 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Live In Different Survival Modes If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Nov 29, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperAs a child, one would have been powerless, dependent and not equipped to deal with their emotions or too much arousal. This is why they needed caregivers who were loving, caring, and emotionally in tune. Yet, as they were abused at this stage of their life, they wouldn’t have received what ...
Views: 614 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Move On From An Abusive Childhood If They Just Forgive Their Parents? - by Submitted on Jul 27, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to see that their early years were not very nurturing, it could take a little while until they feel ready to share what happened with others. As for why it has taken them a little while to see this, this will most likely be due to their conscious mind forgetting all about what ...
Views: 118 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Suffer If They Don’t Face What Happened When They Were Younger? - by Submitted on Jan 02, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for something to develop in the right way, it will need it to receive the right things. If this doesn’t take place, it might still grow but it is not going to grow in the same way as it would otherwise. Nature For example, if a tree was planted in the shade, it is not going to ...
Views: 1463 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Treat Themselves Like An Object If Their Parents Treated Them Like One? - by Submitted on Dec 30, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone is a human being that has a number of needs, feelings and inherent value, it doesn’t mean that they will realise this. Instead, they could treat themselves like they are nothing more than an object that only has a few basic needs, no feelings and no value and purely exists to ...
Views: 34 - Child Abuse: Can Someone’s Need For Validation Stop Them From Being Able To Heal From Child Abuse? - by Submitted on May 03, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf, after being abused and/or neglected as a child, someone was to get to a point in their adult life where they realised that this is what took place, they may experience a strong need for their experiences to be validated. It might seem strange as to why it took them so long to realise that ...
Views: 570 - Child Abuse: Can Someone’s Need To Protect Their Parents Stop Them From Being Able To Heal From Child Abuse? - by Submitted on Aug 06, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone had a harrowing experience as a child, the best thing will be for them to reach out for support now that they are adult. At the same time, it could seem as though what they went through as a child is all in the past, so there is no need for them to worry about what ...
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